It makes total sense that dudes are worried about misandry. That just shows we’re powerful, and that they’re looking in the wrong place just means we’ll win.
- Comedy Central’s tags for the video of Anna Wintour’s appearance on The Colbert Report.
i mean part of why i’m so into menstruating/menstrual menacing/whatever, personally, isn’t so much the “you should love your body bc REAL WOMEN LOVE THEIR BODIES” shit, bc fuck all that shit. it’s more the “YEAH MENSTRUAL BLOOD FUCKIN’ IS GROSS, but also it’s amazing and not gross at all, but also let’s confront this horrible gross feeling in ourselves and terrorize men with feelings and/or blood”
though I gotta say I’ve been feeling kind of uncomfortable with the way that people (myself obviously included) have been menstruating on the internet lately? which is the most ridiculous thing I have ever said. bc like. MENSTRUATE (OR DON’T MENSTRUATE) HOWEVER THE FUCK YOU WANT TO. and like. i’m excited about making “bleed on everything they love” shirts! i’m excited about rgr’s group menstrual calendar! i genuinely care about whether my menstrual cycle is in phase with the moon! and when I started thinking about this and realizing that menstruating could be this AMAZING PERFECT FEMINIST TERROR body thing instead of this “inconvenient thing that I sort of like, but that I try not to think about too much, and that dudes are grossed out by” it was great. it was totally great and felt very affirming and nurturing and good. but.
is this a white lady thing? is this a cis lady thing? is this a gross horrible radscummy thing? should we all be side-eyeing the fuck out of this thing? like WHAT EVEN IS this thing that we are participating in, is my question? what exactly is happening when we are all like “i’m menstruating! i’m menstruating too! ~*internet menstruating bffs*~!”?
like maybe actually the thing that is happening is fine and good and necessary! but maybe it isn’t. and sometimes it does feel kind of bad/weird/wrong. and I don’t quite know where the bad/weird/wrong feeling is coming from - it could be coming from the usual gross misogynist place or it could be coming from somewhere different/better/more uncomfortable though.
but also it doesn’t really matter WHY we do a thing or what we MEANT by it? like i don’t really ever care about intention. I only wanna talk about things/being/doing. so basically my entire point is:
when non-white folks are like “HEY WHITE FEMINISTS THIS THING THAT YOU DO IS GROSS AND REALLY ALIENATING” that is a thing you (we) gotta take seriously and pay attention to
Mona, Rose, Jordan, Cassie, Katina, Alina, Gretchen, Sarah, and I—and, seriously, so many other womyn in our feminist circles—are super fucking into periods and do not identify as “white.” some of us identify as WOC, some of us remain in the liminal space of what I’ll refer to as “half-breed-dom,” some of us are Middle Eastern Americans, some of us are Mestizas, some of us are queer and gender-nonconforming, some of us are trans*, some of us are Two-Spirit.
while I agree that it is absolutely imperative to check our “passing” privilege and critically interrogate the ways in which we perform our feminisms, I also want to magnify the fact that menstrual menacers are not always solely white, cis radscum.
I wanna say more, but I really love yr post and think you’ve got shit covered. xo
This and the blood magic thread are some good work, friends.
I’m mostly in it for the puns and the tags.
Andrea Dworkin, Woman Hating (via negationparty)
Well there ya have it. Second-wave rad-scum indeed eh?
i mean also she eventually ended up assisting in the creation of “the transsexual empire” and stopped sticking up for trans women the moment it became inconvenient. so really only dworkin circa 1974 is off the hook
Fuck, well that’s some inconsistency. I mean I knew of THAT Dworkin but I’m surprised that she wrote this BEFORE taking part in the hot mess that is The Transsexual Empire.
When was the last time white feminists were mad that black men in the US make 74¢ on the white man’s dollar?
I guess around the same time as white Occupiers were outraged about a white unemployment rate that is high but still less than half the black unemployment rate i.e. never.
I’m going through labor statistics and making posters. Ready to blow up some one dimensional bullshit.
can you please make them reblogable?
holla at first-wave feminists
petition for an intersectional first wave revival cause they were also racist as all shit
basically i just want to burn more shit more of time here
help me out guys
i need feminism because burning shit down.
I’ve been reading Wollenstonecraft and I feel this deeply.
Here’s this week’s cover, on newsstands and the iPad tomorrow morning. And the summary of the corresponding story:
In an age where women are dominating - in the workplace, at school, at home - why are they seeking to be dominated in their love lives? Recent media portrayals have shown that a rising number of modern women fantasize about being overpowered, while studies are turning out statistics that bewilder feminists. New shows like HBO’s Girls and books like Fifty Shades of Grey are showcasing the often hidden desire for powerlessness. But why? Katie Roiphe examines the submissive yet empowered female in Newsweek. “It is perhaps inconvenient for feminism that the erotic imagination does not submit to politics, or even changing demographics,” she writes.
We haven’t seen the cover story yet, but color us intrigued! Let’s hear your pre-thoughts, tumblr.
Which women? I won’t go so far as to say that no women of color have submission fantasies, but given that you’ve based your work on media representations and whatever Katie Roiphe of all people has to say, I’m assuming you only mean straight white working women of the middle-upper class. While white women in particular are overrepresented when compared to WOC in television, film and journalism, it doesn’t strike me as anything new or compelling. My 2 cents.
This is going to ruin my life on multiple levels.
"I was going to die, sooner or later, whether or not I had even spoken myself. My silences had not…"
I was going to die, sooner or later, whether or not I had even spoken myself. My silences had not protected me. Your silences will not protect you…. What are the words you do not yet have? What are the tyrannies you swallow day by day and attempt to make your own, until you will sicken and die of them, still in silence? We have been socialized to respect fear more than our own need for language.
I began to ask each time: “What’s the worst that could happen to me if I tell this truth?” Unlike women in other countries, our breaking silence is unlikely to have us jailed, “disappeared” or run off the road at night. Our speaking out will irritate some people, get us called bitchy or hypersensitive and disrupt some dinner parties. And then our speaking out will permit other women to speak, until laws are changed and lives are saved and the world is altered forever.
Next time, ask: What’s the worst that will happen? Then push yourself a little further than you dare. Once you start to speak, people will yell at you. They will interrupt you, put you down and suggest it’s personal. And the world won’t end.
And the speaking will get easier and easier. And you will find you have fallen in love with your own vision, which you may never have realized you had. And you will lose some friends and lovers, and realize you don’t miss them. And new ones will find you and cherish you. And you will still flirt and paint your nails, dress up and party, because, as I think Emma Goldman said, “If I can’t dance, I don’t want to be part of your revolution.” And at last you’ll know with surpassing certainty that only one thing is more frightening than speaking your truth. And that is not speaking.”
Audre Lorde (via diamondmind)
I love that this was on my dash right after Kara’s post.