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March 14th, 2012



glamour is forever and i wish mark could have been

No better tribute.

March 14th, 2012

LDR FOREVER, PART THE 56,234,897,634,786th

Not Me: I am so glad you love LDR like I do.
Me: She is everything!
Not Me: I can't find one thing wrong with her. When she makes the throat slitting move in "Born to Die?" I am dead.
Me: Yes! And her lipstick is crooked and she is kind of crosseyed. Demented queen.
Not Me: She has TIGERS in the PALACE FONTAINEBLEU. I mean, who cares if her dad is rich?
Me: Not I. Can we discuss how she is covered in blood at the end of the video?
Not me: One of the gay porn tumblrs I follow is a fan of hers, so it's like, dude ramming a dude, dude ramming a dude, dude jacking off, Lana posing, dude sucking cock, etc.
Me: That is perfection. Have you seen the old one where she lives in a trailer park and her hair is bleached white and she has a giant beehive and is intensely weird? Someone asks about her eyelashes and she says "I would never go out without them."
Not Me: I MUST SEE. I wish she would do a video for "Blue Jeans."
Me: She did!
Not Me: That's real? I thought that was like a fan video.
Me: That is her essence.
Not Me: We are closer than ever before.
Me: Forever.
March 14th, 2012



I think we’d all save ourselves a lot of time if we allowed a certain subsection of the population to have their very own guy awards, at which they could give awards for, say, Best Guy Opinion About Those Whores Who Make Music, and Best Guy Who Writes Novels About Who We Are Now, and Best Guy Who Runs An Important Literary Journal, and Absolute, No Question, Undisputed King of the Guys.

Then they could “crush” “a brewski” “or seven” in isolation, leaving the rest of us in peace.

We have this. It’s called “publishing.”

March 14th, 2012

"oversharing stops being liberating when it becomes a method for staying static"

“oversharing stops being liberating when it becomes a method for staying static”


zincfingers, who added “because personal experience can’t ever be contested, right? and if you’re a hero just for sharing all your shit, that’s enough, right? and it’s never enabling or unhealthy to praise people for doing this, right?”

I’m super into this. (and the whole discussion is awse, click above and read). Many years ago I published a very personal story of some fucked up things I had done and lived through in my zine. I was troubled by the response… some men started paying a lot more attention to me. And suddenly we were inundated with similar stories and felt freaked out and didn’t run any of them. At that point they didn’t really work in what we were doing, although I couldn’t say which of those things cause the other.

On the other hand, it is so powerful when women (or anyone, obv) tell their stories. I’ve been honored to be part of some really transformative discussions, in places from my living room to Kurdish communities in Turkey. Anne Sexton, as my tumblr followers know, changed my life with her “confessional” work. How do we go from there to the culture of internet exhibitionism that we must contend with now—sort of the reality tv of blogging or something. How do we, as audiences for these kinds of presentations, respond to them? 


March 14th, 2012

Yes and Yes and YES




[snipped a bunch of really relevant stuff re: recent post about zines and confessional culture]

I really like this conversation but not all women are culturally valued when they share their victimisation and/or overshare.

I’ve talked about this a few times elsewhere and I’m going to keep on repeating it—black women are not given the sympathy when we are victims. We’re just not.

And I also find that in so-called radical feminist communities, there is a pressure to overshare—like that makes you knowable and fucking transparent. Like fuck building trust or whatever, we’re supposed to just jump into these intimacy bubbles; and as someone who grew up working class until she became a feminist and didn’t share her feelings—that felt like a trap and just fake. 

Oh yeah this was supposed to be about zines. 


Yeah, the victimhood-as-cultural-currency thing, combined with the confessional culture of a lot of “alternative” spaces is so seductive but also so fucked. Like, who gets to “profit” from their victimhood in ways that can fuck up their/our healing processes by teaching us to identify first and foremost as victims, and who is seen as being “strong”, cast in “support” roles, etc? Who is considered “knowable” and who gets to “know” them, and how is that knowledge constructed and disseminated, and who benefits directly from it?

I’ve talked a bit before about how there are aspects of my identity and history that I just do not want to share, and how it’s disturbing to me that maintaining any sort of privacy about: my abuse history, my family/cultural heritage, my relationships, my gender history, etc - is seen as being indicative of a lack of transparency and a perhaps even a form of dishonesty. How does that impact people whose experiences of class, race, etc inform how, when, etc they share the details of their personal lives, and does that reinforce ideas that certain people are inherently trustworthy (read: good) and certain people are inherently  untrustworthy (read: tainted, bad)? (Hint: yes, yes it does.)

I can’t even tell all of you how important this discussion is for me right now, by the way, and how great it is to see it happening and how much I think I’ve needed for such a discussion to happen. Especially in the context of zines, and creative projects in general. So important.

Same here in terms of importance, and I adore this. <3 

So much cosign. There is also a link here to the White Women’s Tears that a lot of people smarter than me have discussed. I have more thinky thoughts, must organize them. Bolding is not mine (and I can’t figure out whose it is), but ital is me.

March 14th, 2012

"public display and operatic suffering—an in-your-face owning of one’s vulnerability and…"

“public display and operatic suffering—an in-your-face owning of one’s vulnerability and fucked-upness to the point of embarrassing and offending tight-asses is a powerful feminist strategy. Writing is tough work, I don’t see how anyone can really write from a position of weakness. Sometimes I may start out in that position, but the act of commandeering words flips me into a position of power.”

- Dodie Bellamy, the buddhist (via elanormcinerney)
March 14th, 2012

This has basically been my day today.

This has basically been my day today.

March 14th, 2012

freeabortionnow: Updated flyer, with some great new names:…


Updated flyer, with some great new names: Miriam Perez! Lynn Paltrow! Merle Hoffman! And more still to come.

Main conf flyer.

March 14th, 2012

Updated schedule! Now with more cervixes, cameras


Check out our updated schedule for some exciting Urgent! updates! We’ve made a few additions to the lineup, including:

  • a self-exam/feminist health care workshop
  • Radical Projections: Feminist Film and Video // What makes a movie radical? What makes it feminist? How do media makers combine political and aesthetic concerns to create meaningful pieces? Writer and activist Mikki Halpin will lead a discussion with Cecilia DoughertyNancy Schwartzman, who will both discuss their work, and Jasmine Burnett, who will be showing clips from “We Always Resist: Trust Black Women

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One more filmmaker to come, hopefully! Read more about the whole conference here.

March 14th, 2012

Youth is America’s secret weapon. That’s why we ask that the Constitution be amended. We…

Youth is America’s secret weapon. That’s why we ask that the Constitution be amended. We suggest that the required age to vote be fourteen, for Representative fourteen, for Senate, fourteen… and… for President… fourteen. —Greetings from Topanga Canyon