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June 11th, 2012

emmainpictures: Emily Valentine forever.  oldloves: Jason…



emmainpictures:

Emily Valentine forever. 

oldloves:

Jason Priestley & Christine Elise, at the premiere of motion picture “Buffy the Vampire Slayer”. 1992

When I worked at Seventeen she wrote a story about bad girls and being a bad girl for me. I could not believe it was happening. She wrote us a letter, like a written letter on paper. IT WAS AWESOME. Even better than Gloria Steinem and the Dalai Lama although those were both good times. I am sometimes great at things.

June 11th, 2012

"Let me tell you this: if you meet a loner, no matter what they tell you, it’s not because they enjoy…"

“Let me tell you this: if you meet a loner, no matter what they tell you, it’s not because they enjoy solitude. It’s because they have tried to blend into the world before, and people continue to disappoint them.””

- Jodi Picoult (via eupraxsophy)
June 11th, 2012

What to wear to your alimony hearing/student loan appointment/to…



What to wear to your alimony hearing/student loan appointment/to apply for unemployment/etc? Obvie Hawaiian money print pants.

June 11th, 2012

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June 11th, 2012

partywitch: Martha Rosler’s “Semiotics of the Kitchen”…



partywitch:

Martha Rosler’s “Semiotics of the Kitchen” (1975)

I’m excited for Thursday! Is anyone else going?

June 11th, 2012

Guess I Should Untie Her First

I think Eminem should cover this song. Maybe do “Used to Love Her” on the B-side.

Polly wants a cracker
I think I should get off her first
I think she wants some water
To put out the blow torch

Isn’t me
Have a seed
Let me clip
Dirty wings
Let me take a ride
Hurt yourself
Want some help
Help myself
Got some rope
Have been told
I promise you
Have been true
Let me take a ride
Hurt yourself
Want some help
Help myself


Polly wants a cracker
Maybe she would like moore food
Ask me to untie her
A chase would be nice for a few

Isn’t me
Have a seed
Let me clip
Dirty wings
Let me take a ride
Hurt yourself
Want some help
Help myself
Got some rope
Have been told
I promise you
Have been true
Let me take a ride
Hurt yourself
Want some help
Help myself

Polly said

Polly says her back hurts
She’s just as bored as me
She caught me off my guard
It amazes me, the will of instinct

Isn’t me
Have a seed
Let me clip
Dirty wings
Let me take a ride
Hurt yourself
Want some my help
Help myself
I’ve got some rope
Have been told
I promise you
Have been true
Let me take a ride
Hurt yourself
Want some my help
Help myself

June 11th, 2012

Sex and Sensibility

It strikes me that the same people who think Katy Perry is a terrible terrible woman because she dresses in revealing ways and talks about sex and cocks and yet is perfectly happy in a monogamous heterosexual relationship are the similar to the people who thought Britney Spears and Jessica Simpson were terrible terrible women because they were virgins (at least at first) and yet wore sexy clothes and romped around in their videos. Both cases are failures to account for the multiple ways that (in this case, straight white cis women, which is a whole other issue, that the discussion is using them as polarities) that we embody and display our sexuality. Those who accuse certain women of “being sexy but not sexual” are operating with a narrow definition of sexuality and sexual behavior that needs to be retired.

Because wearing “sexy” clothes doesn’t mean you subscribe to any particular sexual behavior. You can wear a latex minidress and be a perfectly happy asexual. You can wear leather chaps and nothing else and go home every night to the same person you’ve been with for 15 years. You can be a virgin and and flaunt your cleavage. “Sexy” clothes are no more a signifier of sexuality than they are of sexual availability. Arguing that a woman who shoots rockets out of her bra is a hypocrite for wanting her husband to be faithful relies on the same logic that says a woman who wears thigh-highs to a bar is complicit in any sexual attack that happens that same night (or ever). Virgins are people who haven’t had sex with a partner yet. It doesn’t mean they don’t have a sexual identity or a sexuality or sexual desire that they may or may not be signaling with their clothes.

And yes, I know, at some point Britney ceased to be a virgin and that makes EVERYTHING SHE DOES SUSPECT because if you think you are going to be a virgin until you get married when you’re 15 or 16 and figure out later that you want to be having the sex, but you don’t think it’s anyone’s business, you probably are a terrible person. I actually really admire something Jessica Simpson wrote about her virginity years—that it was hard, that it wasn’t like she didn’t have sexual feelings and urges, but that she wanted to wait, so that’s what she was doing. People act like virgins are soooo uptight and repressed and that’s not necessarily true. That kind of shaming is as despicable as the much discussed “slut shaming” that is the scourge of the internets.

Maybe it’s just because I’m old, and I spent my teens listening to feminists freak out over Madonna and the horrible horrible example of womanhood she was, but I’m always a little skeptical of criticism that complains about women who don’t fit into certain stereotypes and molds and who also make music videos. At the Pop Conference a few years ago I went to the women’s discussion group, eager to talk about why female musicians get put into certain slots, the possible return of Lilith Fair, the way social media might open up ways for female artists to get more money, the lack of women in the industry overall, and even the shitty way women get treated in the local scene, man. But the burning question was “Is Lady Gaga a feminist?” And frankly I don’t think that answer lies in her work.

June 11th, 2012

fuckyeahfeministartandliterature: Nancy Spero, We are…



fuckyeahfeministartandliterature:

Nancy Spero, We are Pro-Choice, 1992.

June 11th, 2012

I feel like there are all these circles spinning around, many of them with great weight and insight,…

I feel like there are all these circles spinning around, many of them with great weight and insight, some with some real tired ax-grinding but none of them repeating what I think was at the core of what milkeemountainmama has been saying about centering survivors. That’s different from talking about rape culture, which basically centers people who take it upon themselves to go around explaining rape culture and doing awareness campaigns. That’s different from talking about feminism’s intergenerational dramas, which is tedious and centers people whose mothers were in the white second wave. That’s different from writing 1200 boring words Caitlin Flanagan that are so boring I am ready to shut the entire internet down.

June 11th, 2012

psychotropicpolitics: the-womanifesto: If I had the time, I…



psychotropicpolitics:

the-womanifesto:

If I had the time, I would start a whole Tumblr of feminist men. Does that exist anywhere else?

really? REALLY? REALLY? WHAT NICHE IS THAT FILLING?

if i had time i’d start a whole tumblr full of straight people i don’t hate?

hahah JUST KIDDING