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June 22nd, 2012

influential



influential

June 22nd, 2012

mariecalloway: i had a big morning also, if anyone who posts npluspersonals wants to date/fuck me,…

mariecalloway:

i had a big morning

also, if anyone who posts npluspersonals wants to date/fuck me, feel free to email me.  i’ll be in new york soon.

WHAT ARE NPLUSPERSONALS THAT IS THE FUNNIEST EVER. Marie this is a whole new level.

June 22nd, 2012

Jenny Holzer, “I am a man,” 1987



Jenny Holzer, “I am a man,” 1987

June 22nd, 2012

"I wonder if men ever sit around and talk about their conflicted relationship with art made by women…."

“I wonder if men ever sit around and talk about their conflicted relationship with art made by women. Like ‘I really love Jenny Holzer but obviously I know that requires some level of self-hate on my part.’”

- paraphrase of a hilarious and trenchant remark Kara made during solstice when we were discussing Judy (and Niina?)’s It’s Complicated Project. I keep writing the lines in my head and cackling. I think we should make a trailer of it for when the first zine comes out!
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June 22nd, 2012

stuff special white ladies like

stuff special white ladies like
June 22nd, 2012

machamechamama: busy cleaning, and i look outside to see this black dog calmly digging a hole in my…

machamechamama:

busy cleaning, and i look outside to see this black dog calmly digging a hole in my front yard with a bagel in his mouth.

i start to head outside to yell at this dog to get off my lawn and side eye the person with the dog….turns out it’s MY dog.

turns out one of the neighbor kids left our back gate open—so he got out of the back yard, found himself a bagel, and found the perfect place to store the fucker.

i swear to god. between bagel carrying dogs and devil minion squirrels sucking life energy out of the earth with their lamprey stomachs…

we are in the Apocalypse.

be frightened.

A bagel in Michigan? END TIMES.

June 22nd, 2012

lipstick-feminists: sarahspy: “Mike, I was in a real dilemma,”…



lipstick-feminists:

sarahspy:

“Mike, I was in a real dilemma,” joked Clinton. “I have pantsuits in nearly every color – except purple.” — Hillary Clinton Sports Mardi Gras Sunglasses at Swearing In Ceremony

LF is team Rodham-Clinton

imagine if she’d had this hair in 1993. Or 2008.

June 22nd, 2012

"Imagine you’re at a party. A guy offers you a drink. You say no. He says “Come on, one drink!” You…"

“Imagine you’re at a party. A guy offers you a drink. You say no. He says “Come on, one drink!” You say “no thanks.” Later, he brings you a soda. “I know you said you didn’t want a drink, but I was getting one for myself and you looked thirsty.” For you to refuse at this point makes you the asshole. He’s just being nice, right? Predators use the social contract and our own good hearts and fear of being rude against us. If you drink the drink, you’re teaching him that it just takes a little persistence on his part to overcome your “no.” If you say “Really, I appreciate it, but no thanks” and put the drink down and walk away from it, you’re the one who looks rude in that moment. But the fact is, you didn’t ask for the drink and you don’t want the drink and you don’t have to drink it just to make some guy feel validated.”

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The art of “no,” continued: Saying no when you’ve already said yes. « CaptainAwkward.com

I love this post SO MUCH. 

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I’ve found a little tic in some friendships where someone will be unable to say no and then sort of—want me to do it for them? Or they are angry with someone but instead of expressing it to the person, they express it to me and I become this repository of feelings they don’t actually want to acknowledge, or think about and well you can see how it ends. Is ending. You are punished for having listened.

June 22nd, 2012

"While cis girls, throughout their socialization and lives in our culture, internalize cultural…"

“While cis girls, throughout their socialization and lives in our culture, internalize cultural messages about ideal womanhood as a demand of what they need to be in order to be considered valuable, desirable, good women, they have the comparable ‘advantage’ of at least already being girls / women (or at least already having that assignment). Trans girls, though, are subjected to those same messages but internalize them as what is required to manifest womanhood at all. We’re swimming upstream against our gender assignment, and if THAT is what ‘being a woman is all about’, THAT gets internalized as the standard we need to live up not simply to be loved and valued, but in order to simply be read and perceived as ourselves. In other words, while cis girls internalize it as what they need to be in order to be good girls, trans girls internalize it as what they need to be in order to be.

This ends up creating a whole lot more existential urgency in a trans woman to live up to the cultural standards of womanhood. For us, the question driving our self-hatred and self-consciousness over stupid things like our body not meeting arbitrary-cultural-standard-of-beauty #2677 isn’t as relatively easily conquered as the desire to ‘fit in’ or be ‘good’. It’s instead driven by the pressing need to exist, to be embodied, to be seen by others and understood as who we are rather than who we aren’t.”

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Natalie Reed, Is He Checking Me Out, Or Just Staring At The Freak?

Read the whole thing.

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June 22nd, 2012

"She’s writing fanfiction about herself."

“She’s writing fanfiction about herself.”

- My review of a certain feminist memoir.