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June 28th, 2012

You know you’re living right when all the features editors look at you like your’re…

You know you’re living right when all the features editors look at you like your’re crazy and all the fashion editors tell you they love your outfit. Horses on top, checks below—calling it “Barni.”

June 28th, 2012



My role as helper is not to do things for the people I am trying to help, but to be things; not to try to control and change their actions, but through understanding and awareness, to change my reactions. I will change my negatives to positives; fear to faith; contempt for what they do to respect for the potential within them; hostility to understanding; and manipulation or over protectiveness to release with love, not trying to make them fit a standard or image, but giving them an opportunity to pursue their own destiny, regardless of what their choice may be.

I will change my dominance to encouragement; panic to serenity; the inertia of despair to the energy of my own personal growth; and self-justification to self-understanding.

Self-pity blocks effective action. The more I indulge in it, the more I feel that the answer to my problems is a change in others and in society, not in myself. Thus, I become a hopeless case.

Exhaustion is the result when I use my energy in mulling over the past with regret or in trying to figure ways to escape a future that has yet to arrive. Projecting an image of the future—and anxiously hovering over it for fear that it will or it won’t come true—uses all my energy and leaves me unable to live today. Yet living today is the only way to have a life.

I will have no thought for the future actions of others, neither expecting them to be better or worse as time goes on, for in such expectations I am really trying to create or control. I will love and let be.

All people are always changing. If I try to judge them, I do so only on what I think I know of them, failing to realize that there is much I do not know. I will give others credit for attempts at progress and for having had many victories that are unknown.

I, too, am always changing, and I can make that change a constructive one, if I am willing. I CAN CHANGE MYSELF. Others I can only love.

June 28th, 2012

Look at our pool!! The community really pulled together,…

Look at our pool!! The community really pulled together, including my “We aren’t activists but we like to go swimming” next door neighbors, whose uncle cried and told me he learned to swim in the pool in the 50s, to all of my rock friends who dressed up and sang in the We Are the Pool Video, Michael Freedman Schnapp who put on a 30-lb costume with no cooling unit, and the guy from the Parks Dept who made the yuppies and the condo people shut up at the meetings. I’m devastated on a daily basis on what has happened to my neighborhood, but this is awesome, and the after-school programs and the gym and the community center will benefit everyone at every income level. If people took the time to study the actual demographics of North Brooklyn and not the headlines, they would see a very different picture.

June 28th, 2012


June 28th, 2012

anarchafeminist: Here it is! My RodeoH review! And this is…


Here it is! My RodeoH review! 
And this is the post with the full set of pictures! 
All of the photos were taken by my spouse Charlene

I am modeling the black and dark grey size XS briefs. 
Right out of the package they fit perfectly (per the sizing info on the website). I’m sure they will shrink in the dryer, but I couldn’t wait to use them! 
I immediately put my packer (a 6” Limpy) inside the underwear as my packer, and jumped around my apartment. Nothing happened. It moved a little bit, but didn’t flop out of the leg holes or anything. 

The entire time I wore the harness (even during sex) I packed. As a trans* man, this was astonishing for me. There wasn’t ANY dysphoria with this harness. Usually the process of putting on strappy instruction manual harnesses is so mechanical that all sexiness is taken out of the situation, and you’re forced to strip naked (which can be triggering for some people) in order to put it on. 
I had the inkling that my partner and I would be having sex, so I slipped it on ahead of time, and before bedtime when moves were made I could immediately insert her favorite toy and get going! It was miraculous! 
Throughout the sexual process, multiple positions were used, and there wasn’t any discomfort on either end for us. The base on the end of the toy is a little small, and I was worried it would slip, but it didn’t. I truthfully forgot that I wasn’t a biological male while having sex with my partner. How crazy is that. 

I give this harness 100%! It was versatile in that I could pack and play with it, which as a trans* man is essential, and it was the most comfortable thing that I’ve ever worn underwear or harness wise. If you don’t already own one of the RodeoH harnesses, you’re missing out on the best sex of your life. Guaranteed. 

To help you get your first RodeoH harness (or a new one!), here’s a coupon code for $10 off your entire order, plus free shipping. Just enter the name Riley at checkout, and go change your sex life forever. 

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we live in amazing times!