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July 31st, 2012

"The Stuff That Dreams Are Made Of The keynote of your relationship with Brad is enchantment. This…"

The Stuff That Dreams Are Made Of

The keynote of your relationship with Brad is enchantment. This quality of dreamlike beauty and bewitchment embraces many dimensions of reality, from the erotic to the spiritual. And some aspects of it can be inspiring and uplifting while others may be painful, confusing and disappointing. Above all, enchantment implies a state which is above or beyond ordinary mundane reality - an alternative world where feelings are heightened, events are infused with hidden meaning, knights protect princesses from dragons, and gods and heroes walk the earth. Here in this magical Paradise Garden, protected from the intrusion of the banal, the loneliness of human existence can be mitigated through a “true” union of souls.

Because of your dramatic self-sufficiency and your need to prove that you can handle life’s challenges alone, you may find your relationship with Brad sometimes difficult and even a little threatening because of the loss of individual boundaries which you are at times likely to experience. The romantic qualities inherent in the relationship, and its almost mystical sense of merging, tend to slip beneath your defences and penetrate your inner isolation and self-absorption, making you more aware than you might like of your need of and dependency upon others. Also, the adjustments and sacrifices which the partnership might require are likely to make you feel vaguely resentful at times, because you are strong-willed and generally like to have things your own way. Yet if you allow this relationship to work its subtle alchemy on you, you may discover that it is actually alright to need another person, and that a shared burden is not an insult to your strength.

July 31st, 2012

"Tongue-Tied You are as drawn to Brad for his qualities of mind as to his qualities of heart and…"

Tongue-Tied

You are as drawn to Brad for his qualities of mind as to his qualities of heart and body. But the communication between you is a complex issue, because certain deeper and more unconscious feelings are stirred which can create problems in an otherwise fertile dialogue. Although you have a profound admiration for your partner’s way of thinking and expressing himself, you also feel somewhat intimidated or threatened by what you experience as his superior mental abilities. His shrewd and realistic way of looking at things, which allows him to cut through nonsense to the truth of the matter, have, through no fault of his, triggered old hurts around communication and learning which spring from your childhood, and which may make you feel unconsciously awkward around him even when there is no cause. But this activation of deeper issues may not be evident to you; you may instead react to Brad with criticism, silence, evasion, or a show of patronising indifference, so that he winds up being the one who feels intellectually inferior in some way. Your partner may also feel that you do not listen to him, or that you disagree with him on principle without reflection. If the two of you do not understand what has been set in motion between you, you may sometimes find yourselves in some rather nasty and wounding arguments. But this relationship can give you great insight into your own dilemma, and the more the two of you are able to discuss these issues honestly, the more creative the outcome. And you can offer Brad a stabilising and containing quality which can help him to ground his ideas and put them to practical use.

July 31st, 2012

"Riding the Roller Coaster Part of the attraction between the two of you involves the electric…"

Riding the Roller Coaster

Part of the attraction between the two of you involves the electric quality of instability and mental awakening which you bring into your partner’s life. Although this may at times be quite disturbing to you both, it is nevertheless a powerful component in what draws you together. There is something about your essential nature, with its high ideals and strong desire for perfection, which excites and fascinates Brad, for you open up facets of life and of your partner’s personality of which he has probably previously had little experience. You in turn are drawn to a quality of originality and spirit of which he might not have been fully aware, but which attracts you like a flower does a bee. But your partner may not always welcome the stirring of this more unconventional side of his nature, and the feeling of moving into an unknown world of ideas and experiences may bring up powerful feelings of anxiety in him. This anxiety is a natural human reaction to change, for it is likely that you, willingly or unwillingly, will eventually be the catalyst for major changes in his world-view and the ways in which he expresses himself. Brad may need to be aware of his tendency toward abrupt and compulsive withdrawals because of his anxiety.

The unpredictable element which the two of you experience is rather like a fluctuating electrical current, and it may lead to crises and separations; for you are like a pair of magnets, sometimes attracting and sometimes repelling. But if you and your partner can recognise that perhaps this element is needed in both your lives, and that you can help to free each other from many old attitudes and outworn habits, you will both be able to manage the challenge you pose each other with greater confidence and trust in yourselves.

July 31st, 2012

"Venus Conjunct Mars With Venus conjunct Mars in the composite chart you will find that feelings run…"

Venus Conjunct Mars

With Venus conjunct Mars in the composite chart you will find that feelings run high between you. This is a passionately intense relationship that is likely to be based at least partly on sexual drives, even if you are of the same sex.

All the emotional reactions between you are heightened considerably by this conjunction. Anger, sadness, and above all, love, are more intense.

Even if you should become enemies, which could happpen, you would be intense enemies. The strong attraction between you prevents you from being detached in any way about each other.

July 31st, 2012

"Venus in the Eighth House Composite Venus in the eighth house indicates emotional intensity…"

Venus in the Eighth House

Composite Venus in the eighth house indicates emotional intensity concerning love.

In a love relationship, the expression of love will be quite intense, with a powerful quality that will transform both of you in some fundamental way. Your love will not be light and gay but something very serious that involves both of you at all levels of mind, body, and soul.

July 31st, 2012

"Sun opposition Saturn in the composite chart presents real problems: temperaments so different as to…"

Sun opposition Saturn in the composite chart presents real problems: temperaments so different as to cause difficulties, a tendency to work against rather than with each other, a tendency for one of you to inhibit and limit the other unnecessarily, and excessive criticism of each other.

It is possible for a relationship with this configuration to survive, but several conditions must be met. First, criticism must be limited to really important problems. Second, the relationship should be open enough so that you can get away from each other in your daily lives and lessen the tension between you. Third, the two of you must broaden your viewpoints and become more tolerant of what you reject in each other. And fourth, you must have feelings of genuine love or friendship for each other.

July 31st, 2012

"So I got some rose quartz out of my bag and said, ‘Give it to him, and tell him I have nothing…"

“So I got some rose quartz out of my bag and said, ‘Give it to him, and tell him I have nothing but love and good feelings for him.’”

- Elizabeth Koke
July 31st, 2012

I just figured out my ascendant sign for the first time (as if it matters).

otherxcore:

It’s Taurus, for those who were wondering. (For those who missed my earlier post about my birthday, my sun sign is Sagittarius.)

Adjust your perceptions of me accordingly.

Sun sign Scorpio, Aquarius rising, Lilith in Capricorn

July 31st, 2012

"He was dressed in a USA Boxing tracksuit with the word “President” stitched on the chest when he met…"

He was dressed in a USA Boxing tracksuit with the word “President” stitched on the chest when he met me for a breakfast of eggs and coffee. He has never had a problem with women boxing, he said. His criteria for inclusion have nothing to do with gender. “When kids call me up, I say, ‘Let me ask you an honest question: have your parents ever hit you?’ If they say no, I say, ‘I don’t think you belong in boxing.’ ”

Adonis himself was qualified to box because “my father invented child abuse,” he said, with an incongruous smile. “I learned how to play chess when I was six years old. My father would have a strap and smack me across the face if I made the wrong move. So when I got onto the streets and got into boxing, I was so used to getting hit it was like, Hey, this is nothing!” When he trained kids, he said, “before a fight I’d start smacking them real hard in the face. Because you feel, in boxing, the first couple punches. After that, the endorphins kick in and it’s like someone gave you Novocain.” But ignoring too much pain in the ring can lead to serious injury, or even death. Passive defense—the Rocky-like effort of an outmatched boxer to stay in a fight by absorbing punches after he can no longer defend himself—is a foul in amateur boxing.

Still, many people share Adonis’s belief that a childhood scorched by abuse is advantageous to a boxer. “It definitely takes a different kind of life experience,” Carrie Barry, a two-time national champion, told me. She was battered by her mother until she was twelve, and then thrown out of the house. “You have to have some kind of fight in you. You have to have something to overcome.”

Halbert told me that boxers “have learned to emphasize the hard-luck part of their stories—people think those are the stories the media wants to hear.” Certainly, the boxers—and their minders—were forthcoming about what they’d suffered. Queen Underwood’s childhood molestation by her father was luridly detailed in the Times just days before the trials started. Tyrieshia Douglas volunteered for the press pack that she’d been raped and beaten in foster care. At breakfast, Adonis pointed to a boxer at the next table talking on her cell phone. “Let me tell you a story about her: she was raped by a member of her family when she was a little girl!” he said. “Half of our girls have been molested; half of our girls are gay.”



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yyesCan Claressa Shields Remake Women’s Boxing? : The New Yorker

this is possibly the most fucked up unbelievable bullshit—except that it’s not unbelievable at all. when i was at university contemplating going on to my masters/phd? i was told that if i was willing to share my “story of hardship” i was almost a shoo in to higher programs. NOT because of quotas or affirmative action, which is *category* based, i.e. which box you check for your race, if you went to a rural school, if you’re a woman, etc—but because of *my story*—the “hardship i’ve had to overcome.” because then they’d have “proof” that i could make it in a rigorous program. never mind my 4.0, never mind my reputation with the profs in the program, never mind any of that.

i didn’t have what the “resource rich” kids had, which was academically rigorous programs and tutors and training to show that i could make it.

so i had to use my story. i had to make my story *profitable* and figure out how to tell it in a way that impressed people without embarassing them. if i had said “i was molested and i’m queer”—that would’ve embarassed them. you see what i mean? that would’ve been sharing too much.

instead you have to draw on existing “inspiring” narratives out there about poor people…just give me this one chance and i’ll make you so proud of me. i’m so grateful for the opportunity that this great country university is giving me. eminem provides an excellent groundwork for an “inspiring” story. when ur at a liberal university you use eminem. when your at a conservative university, you use richard rodriguez.

i mean, do you see why, especially in this age of the online world—*F*eminist demands to ‘share your story’ is not a radical or transformative solution to injustice? that, indeed, in many cases, refusing to share your story is the bigger intervention?

(via mmmightymightypeople)

July 31st, 2012

so fresh



so fresh

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