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August 25th, 2012

Wrong to say "The election will be about economic issues, not abortion or birth control." Those *are* economic issues. My body goes to work.

August 25th, 2012

elanormcinerney: Grimes | Genesis reblogging for the tags WAIT…





elanormcinerney:

Grimes | Genesis

reblogging for the tags

WAIT OK I WAS FREAKING OUT ABOUT THIS TOO. The Grimes video is so bad in so many ways but I was totally like, is that…Banana?

August 25th, 2012

So called "female trainwrecks"

So called "female trainwrecks":

Obviously when I saw the headline on this I shouldn’t have read any further, but for real wtf. There’s SO MUCH WRONG with this preachy piece but the inclusion of Marie Calloway is beyond. Marie writes about her sex life, so that’s “humiliating?” It’s self-destructive? It’s on a par with smoking angel dust and writing for Vice which are also apparently not proper behaviors or topics for a lady. YOU COULD END UP LIKE JUDY GARLAND. 

Oh and also, the writer sneers because she thinks Marie’s work is “money driven.” IT’S ALMOST LIKE SHE IS A PROSTITUTE. Writers should never ever write for money, I suppose. I’m sure the author of this piece doesn’t do that, even though she’s doing the most profitable thing ever—putting down other women, with little knowledge and a whole lot of moral judgment (sex! and drugs! oh my!).

I’ve met Marie, and spent time with her, and I can tell you she’s about as far as a “train wreck” as you can get and even if she was one, shut the fuck up. Jesus. There is nothing I despise more than people who assume they know other people’s motivations, except for people who bring their own crappy prejudices to decide what’s feminist and what isn’t.

August 25th, 2012

Send me your phone # if we are phone friends

I restored with a backup but the backup was from May so people are missing. IMPORTANT PEOPLE.

August 25th, 2012

mikkipedia: Narcissists are (a) extremely sensitive to personal criticism and (b) extremely…

mikkipedia:

Narcissists are (a) extremely sensitive to personal criticism and (b) extremely critical of other people. They think that they must be seen as perfect or superior or infallible, next to god-like (if not actually divine, then sitting on the right hand of God) — or else they are worthless. There’s no middle ground of ordinary normal humanity for narcissists. They can’t tolerate the least disagreement. In fact, if you say, “Please don’t do that again — it hurts,” narcissists will turn around and do it again harder to prove that they were right the first time; their reasoning seems to be something like “I am a good person and can do no wrong; therefore, I didn’t hurt you and you are lying about it now…” — sorry, folks, I get lost after that. Anyhow, narcissists are habitually cruel in little ways, as well as big ones, because they’re paying attention to their fantasy and not to you, but the bruises on you are REAL, not in your imagination. Thus, no matter how gently you suggest that they might do better to change their ways or get some help, they will react in one of two equally horrible ways: they will attack or they will withdraw. Be wary of wandering into this dragon’s cave — narcissists will say ANYTHING, they will trash anyone in their own self-justification, and then they will expect the immediate restoration of the status quo. They will attack you (sometimes physically) and spew a load of bile, insult, abuse, contempt, threats, etc., and then — well, it’s kind of like they had indigestion and the vicious tirade worked like a burp: “There. Now I feel better. Where were we?” They feel better, so they expect you to feel better, too. They will say you are nothing, worthless, and turn around immediately and say that they love you. When you object to this kind of treatment, they will say, “You just have to accept me the way I am. (God made me this way, so God loves me even if you are too stupid to understand how special I am.)” Accepting them as they are (and staying away from them entirely) is excellent advice. The other “punishment” narcissists mete out is banishing you from their glorious presence — this can turn into a farce, since by this point you are probably praying to be rescued, “Dear God! How do I get out of this?” The narcissist expects that you will be devastated by the withdrawal of her/his divine attention, so that after a while — a few weeks or months (i.e., the next time the narcissist needs to use you for something) — the narcissist will expect you to have learned your lesson and be eager to return to the fold. If you have learned your lesson, you won’t answer that call. They can’t see that they have a problem; it’s always somebody else who has the problem and needs to change. Therapies work at all only when the individual wants to change and, though narcissists hate their real selves, they don’t want to change — they want the world to change. And they criticize, gripe, and complain about almost everything and almost everyone almost all the time. There are usually a favored few whom narcissists regard as absolutely above reproach, even for egregious misconduct or actual crime, and about whom they won’t brook the slightest criticism. These are people the narcissists are terrified of, though they’ll tell you that what they feel is love and respect; apparently they don’t know the difference between fear and love. Narcissists just get worse and worse as they grow older; their parents and other authority figures that they’ve feared die off, and there’s less and less outside influence to keep them in check. ^

This is just a small excerpt from the most gloriously mean-spirited (and accurate!) description of narcissists I’ve ever read.

worth reblogging under current circs

August 25th, 2012

nuditea: barrier-trio replied to your post: i like talking about friendship!!! romantic… but i love…

nuditea:

barrier-trio replied to your post: i like talking about friendship!!! romantic…

but i love romance!!!!!!!!!

sigh i just like having friends who i can do grand gestures for and stuff but who i’m not dating and will never date BUT MOSTLY i just am bored of everything having to include like “and then they fall in love BWUAAARRGAAARRRRF” i just wanna see communities banding together and people supporting each other without being in a relationship and stuff and the exploration of strong platonic bonds and bbbbbbbbbbbbbbbbb idk

August 25th, 2012

nuditea: there are times when i’m suddenly struck by the concept that maybe my kind of odd views on…

nuditea:

there are times when i’m suddenly struck by the concept that maybe my kind of odd views on relationships and friendship are thanks to a long history of being involved in highly dysfunctional versions of those things but then i realise that’s clearly the HATERS talkin’ and i take a very self-satisfied nap (◡‿◡✿)

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August 25th, 2012

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August 25th, 2012

here is the address of a misogynistic cyber stalker named 18-15n-77-80w

goongoblin90:

he repeatedly targets black women, going through their archives and posting their pictures when they have made it clear they do not want him to do so, and even when the girls are underage. when they ask him to stop, he curses at them and ignores their requests, but will visit their page for hours as a means of bullying them for daring to speak up about him. tumblr refuses to do anything about him, but i well not be bullied or silenced. people need to know who he is and protect themselves accordingly.

Approximate coordinates: 40.61-73.9108

Approximate address: 2527 Mill Ave, Brooklyn NY

IP address: 98.113.59.118

protect yourselves.

 ah of course he lives in an all-white, insular area.