It’s nice to love and be loved but I’d rather know what God knows.
If you know me, you know why researching a story on cheating means frequent crying breaks w Fritzers.
I’m pretty sure this is from my friend Ted, but chuffed by this comment on a story about Sassy.
In popcorn jargon, a popped kernel of corn is known as a “flake”. Two shapes of flakes are commercially important. “Butterfly” flakes are irregular in shape and have a number of protruding “wings”. “Mushroom” flakes are largely ball-shaped, with few wings. Butterfly flakes are regarded as having better mouthfeel, with greater tenderness and less noticeable hulls. Mushroom flakes are less fragile than butterfly flakes and are therefore often used for packaged popcorn or confectionery, such as caramel corn. The kernels from a single cob of popcorn may form both butterfly and mushroom flakes; hybrids that produce 100% butterfly flakes or 100% mushroom flakes exist, the latter developed only as recently as 1998. Growing conditions and popping environment can also affect the butterfly-to-mushroom ratio.
Best of all time.
The only photo I care about right now.
The issue is that people—and by people, I mean feminists and their dudely allies—refused to listen to other women who were speaking loudly and clearly about why Hugo was a problem. WHY giving him a platform and a fucking megaphone was a problem. WHY being enthusiastic about him leading Slutwalk was a problem.
The issue isn’t that you were fooled. The issue is that you all didn’t fucking listen, you didn’t give a shit, you couldn’t be arsed to take the concerns of women of color into consideration, and you couldn’t be bothered to give the words of women of color any credibility. The issue is that a lot of you big name feminists and dudely allies berated and shamed the women who came forward by preaching about forgiveness and redemption and coopting concepts women of color had pioneered. That you shrugged it off and lectured HS’s critics on the important shit. That you talked about how he had chaaanged even though women of color were telling you his behavior towards them showed he hasn’t.
The issue is that you all—big name feminists and dudely dude allies—engaged in the same damn silencing techniques and belittling bullshit abuse enablers do.
HS is not an evil genius. He is not Hannibal Fucking Lechter. The fact is, if people came forward claiming to be shocked, shocked by Assange, or Polanski, or DSK, or any other lefty d00d we’ve known is a sexist, racist asshat, you’d rightly call them out on their bullshit. You’d ask them why they didn’t take the words of women into account. You’d ask them why they automatically deride those women who spoke up. You’d ask them why the words of women weren’t worth believing.
Well, I’m going to ask you: WHY AREN’T THE WORDS OF WOMEN BELIEVING?
Oh! Women of color. That’s why.
Exactly how confident am I supposed to feel about a movement that claims to speak for and fight for all women when the leaders act like dudely dudes to a huge swath of them?