Posts tagged ‘abuse’

October 30th, 2012

friendlyangryfeminist: Abusers are really good at finding people who have already been groomed to…

friendlyangryfeminist:

Abusers are really good at finding people who have already been groomed to view abuse as ‘normal’. So please don’t wonder how someone could have been abused more than once and say shit like abuse survivors should know better. 

It’s not unheard of for survivors to go from abusive relationship to abusive relationship. Abuse has been so normalized for so many people that there is this deep rooted suspicion that all relationships are abusive. That everyone is faking it just like you’re faking it. That no one actually has non-toxic relationships. And that’s a type of coping mechanism right there, isn’t it?

Then there’s also the fact that survivors have complicated feelings towards their abusers. Sometimes we love our abusers. Sometimes we are dependent on our abusers and feel indebted. Sometimes we know it is abuse but we don’t know if anyone will take our side and help us. People would rather turn away then help us. Sometimes people would rather help cover up the abuse because it’s less messy. 

Sometimes these messy feelings keep us from realizing we’re being abused, even if we know the cycle of abuse, even if we’ve tried to help friends in messy relationships. It can’t be abuse, we’re in love. It can’t be abuse, he takes care of us. It can’t be abuse because I can’t see myself as someone being abused. Etc, etc, etc. 

February 26th, 2012

feministfilm: opendrawer: somerset: TW: RAPE AND DOMESTIC…





feministfilm:

opendrawer:

somerset:

TW: RAPE AND DOMESTIC VIOLENCE

Honestly, I always feel like white people can’t shock me anymore by the depths to which they sink in order rationalize their racism but they still always manage. Always. Without fail. Endlessly.

ROMAN POLANSKI HAS AN OSCAR

MARK WAHLBERG HAS TWO OSCAR NOMINATIONS

SEAN PENN HAS AN OSCAR

JOSH BROLIN HAS AN OSCAR NOMINATION

So no, unless you’re a black man, the academy and the rest of the entire fucking world doesn’t give a fuck if you beat or rape a woman or girl. And this is really fucking rich coming from a guy who raped Anna Faris on screen for a joke. But he’s white so it’s ok. And hilarious.

And +2 more for the shitty, shitty dudes who don’t give a fuck about violence against women reblogging this picture and lauding Seth Rogen for his great ~feminism~

ugh x 1000000

I’m not totally sure who he is, as he has never been in a period piece, a spy movie, or a DIY feminist film (the other kind of period piece, har), but I am beginning to sense he is evil.