Posts tagged ‘introversy’

August 12th, 2013

ramblings, musings & snippets: TIPS FOR DEALING WITH PEOPLE IN PAIN

ramblings, musings & snippets: TIPS FOR DEALING WITH PEOPLE IN PAIN:

anothermissinglink:

TIPS FOR DEALING WITH PEOPLE IN PAIN

1. People with chronic pain seem unreliable (we can’t count on ourselves). When feeling better we promise things (and mean it); when in serious pain, we may not even show up.

2. An action or situation may result in pain several hours later, or even the next day. Delayed pain is confusing to people who have never experienced it.

3. Pain can inhibit listening
and other communication skills. It’s like having someone shouting at you, or trying to talk with a fire alarm going off in the room. The effect of pain on the mind can seem like attention deficit disorder. So you may have to repeat a request, or write things down for a person with chronic pain. Don’t take it personally, or think that they are stupid.

4. The senses can overload while in pain. For example, noises that wouldn’t normally bother you, seem too much.

5. Patience may seem short. We can’t wait in a long line; can’t wait for a long drawn out conversation.

6. Don’t always ask “how are you” unless you are genuinely prepared to listen it just points attention inward.

7. Pain can sometimes trigger psychological disabilities (usually very temporary). When in pain, a small task, like hanging out the laundry, can seem like a huge wall, too high to climb over. An hour later the same job may be quite OK. It is sane to be depressed occasionally when you hurt.

8. Pain can come on fairly quickly and unexpectedly. Pain sometimes abates after a short rest. Chronic pain people appear to arrive and fade unpredictably to others.

9. Knowing where a refuge is, such as a couch, a bed, or comfortable chair, is as important as knowing where a bathroom is. A visit is much more enjoyable if the chronic pain person knows there is a refuge if needed. A person with chronic pain may not want to go anywhere that has no refuge (e.g.no place to sit or lie down).

10. Small acts of kindness can seem like huge acts of mercy to a person in pain. Your offer of a pillow or a cup of tea can be a really big thing to a person who is feeling temporarily helpless in the face of encroaching pain.

11. Not all pain is easy to locate or describe. Sometimes there is a body-wide feeling of discomfort, with hard to describe pains in the entire back, or in both legs, but not in one particular spot you can point to. Our vocabulary for pain is very limited, compared to the body’s ability to feel varieties of discomfort.

12. We may not have a good “reason” for the pain. Medical science is still limited in its understanding of pain. Many people have pain that is not yet classified by doctors as an officially recognized “disease”. That does not reduce the pain, – it only reduces our ability to give it a label, and to have you believe us.

This is my life.

July 6th, 2013

somedaysomeway: sweet heyluchie: My comic; “Introversion" is…













somedaysomeway:

sweet

heyluchie:

My comic; “Introversion" is finished! Please go to the main page of my blog to read it in full size (the text is kinda small)

I really hope you’ll like it!

December 15th, 2012

"I cannot stand small talk, because I feel like there’s an elephant standing in the room shitting all…"

“I cannot stand small talk, because I feel like there’s an elephant standing in the room shitting all over everything and nobody is saying anything. I’m just dying to say, “Hey, do you ever feel like jumping off a bridge?” or “Do you feel an emptiness inside your chest at night that is going to swallow you?” But you can’t say that at a cocktail party.”

- Paul Gilmartin, The Mental Illness Happy Hour  (via a-sensible-heart)
September 3rd, 2012

worsethanqueer: Bless this post.















worsethanqueer:

Bless this post.

July 18th, 2012

It is 90 degrees and hailing out and I have to go be smart about…



It is 90 degrees and hailing out and I have to go be smart about French feminist activist collective films in Chelsea and then go get drunk with Australian surfers (including newly crowned FIVE TIME WORLD CHAMPEEN Stephanie Gilmore, FIVE TIMESSSSSSS I am so happy for her) downtown and I have no umbrella and heels on.

Check her out on this barrel at Bells Beach in Oz. KILLING

July 13th, 2012

the introvert’s haiku

snowdarkred:

i love you but if
i don’t leave right fucking now
i’ll have to kill you

July 1st, 2012

"Watching two extroverted people flirt with each other is fucking unbearable."

“Watching two extroverted people flirt with each other is fucking unbearable.”

- the philosopher Jean Genet Ramsey
June 6th, 2012

"I loathe when people think that I’m shy rather than introverted. There’s absolutely nothing wrong…"

I loathe when people think that I’m shy rather than introverted. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with being shy, I’m just not, and they are two separate things. People cajoling me into social situations try to assure me that I “don’t have to talk to everyone” or that “everyone will love me.”


Bitch, of course they will like me. I am delightful. I just find prolonged social interactions to be extremely exhausting.



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Comment by popculturemulcher in the article I’m Not a Miserable Bitch, I’m Just an Introvert (via battleinabox)

Bitch, of course they will like me. I am delightful. I just find prolonged social interactions to be extremely exhausting

YES.

(via inherhipstheresrevolutions)

relevant

May 4th, 2012

"I feel so intensely the delights of shutting oneself up in a little world of one’s own, with…"

“I feel so intensely the delights of shutting oneself up in a little world of one’s own, with pictures and music and everything beautiful.”

- Virginia Woolf, The Voyage Out (via fuckyeahvirginiawoolf)
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May 2nd, 2012

"You are not weak just because your heart feels so heavy. I have never met a heavy heart that wasn’t…"

“You are not weak just because your heart feels so heavy. I have never met a heavy heart that wasn’t a phone booth with a red cape inside. Some people will never understand the kind of superpower it takes for some people to just walk outside.”

- Andrea Gibson, “The Nutritionist” (via asimplisticreality)