Posts tagged ‘pathetic crisis’

October 14th, 2013

Identifying Negative Attention-Seeking Methods

Identifying Negative Attention-Seeking Methods:

Noted: The author has seven children.

October 5th, 2013

How does the narcissist react when he fails to obtain enough Narcissistic Supply? Very much as a…

How does the narcissist react when he fails to obtain enough Narcissistic Supply? Very much as a drug addict would react to the absence of his particular drug. The dwindling or absence of supply is a trauma and the narcissist experiences post-traumatic stress.

The narcissist constantly consumes (really, preys upon) adoration, admiration, approval, applause, attention and other forms of Narcissistic Supply. When lacking or deficient, a Narcissistic Deficiency Dysphoria sets in. The narcissist then appears to be depressed, his movements slow down, his sleep patterns are disordered (he either sleeps too much or becomes insomniac), his eating patterns change (he gorges on food or is avoids it altogether).

He is be constantly dysphoric (sad) and anhedonic (finds no pleasure in anything, including his former pursuits, hobbies, and interests). He is subjected to violent mood swings (mainly rage attacks) and all his (visible and painful) efforts at self-control fail. He may compulsively and ritually resort to an alternative addiction – alcohol, drugs, reckless driving, shopaholism.

This gradual disintegration is the narcissist’s futile effort both to escape his predicament and to sublimate his aggressive urges. His whole behaviour seems constrained, artificial, and effortful. The narcissist gradually turns more and more mechanical, detached, and “unreal”. His thoughts constantly wander or become obsessive and repetitive, his speech may falter, he appears to be far away, in a world of his narcissistic fantasies, where Narcissistic Supply is aplenty.

He withdraws from his painful existence, where others fail to appreciate his greatness, special skills and talents, potential, or achievements. The narcissist thus ceases to bestow himself upon a cruel universe, punishing it for its shortcomings, its inability to realise how unique he is.

When narcissism thus fails as a defense mechanism, the narcissist develops paranoid delusions: self-directed confabulations which place him at the center of others’ allegedly malign attention. The narcissist becomes his own audience and self-sufficient as his own, sometimes exclusive, source of narcissistic supply.

The narcissist goes into a schizoid mode: he isolates himself, a hermit in the kingdom of his hurt. He minimises his social interactions and uses “messengers” to communicate with the outside. Devoid of energy, the narcissist can no longer pretend to succumb to social conventions. His former compliance gives way to open withdrawal (a rebellion of sorts). Smiles are transformed to frowns, courtesy becomes rudeness, emphasised etiquette used as a weapon, an outlet of aggression, an act of violence.

The narcissist, blinded by pain, seeks to restore his balance, to take another sip of the narcissistic nectar. In this quest, the narcissist turns both to and upon those nearest to him. His real attitude emerges: for him, his nearest and dearest are nothing are but tools, one-dimensional instruments of gratification, Sources of Supply or pimps of such supply, catering to his narcissistic lusts.

 

August 17th, 2013

pussy-strut: whats that thing where somebody hurts you and then wants you to make them feel better…

pussy-strut:

whats that thing where somebody hurts you and then wants you to make them feel better about having hurt you

July 27th, 2013

No longer absorbing poison in the name of friendship.

July 24th, 2013

This is so kind and so very relevant.



This is so kind and so very relevant.

July 23rd, 2013

You may all continue to say nice things to me. Anna and Kara are on email duty.

You may all continue to say nice things to me. Anna and Kara are on email duty.

March 30th, 2013

Always



Always

March 20th, 2013

Does it count as hate reading if it’s more like you are marveling at someone’s total fucking narcissistic delusions? It’s not nice, but is it hate?

I would not remove their delusions, I think they have constructed a life where they need the delusions to survive and not face reality. Reality is not that bad, but they don’t STAR in reality like they do in their delusions. No one points out the lies in their delusions. There is no accountability in delusions. I should ignore the delusions. But they just keep going.

November 20th, 2012

"For so many of us the lines are not always clear between the people who love us and the people who…"

“For so many of us the lines are not always clear between the people who love us and the people who hurt us. Most of us can say that if someone hits you, that’s pretty shitty; that’s an identifiable thing, a bad thing. When I worked in shelters even women who had had that kind of violence so inculcated into them that they would explain to me how they actually deserved it understood that it was not normal, to hit another human being. It is a thing that must be justified, explained. But there is a lot that can happen up to that point, the point of physical assault, that is not so easy to define. How many of us have traded some measure of safety for the feeling that we are loved? How many of us have seen people we thought we were safe with transformed into people willing to do us harm?”

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The Rejectionist | Sarah McCarry: A Few Good Men

this is how I feel all the time lately. 

(via champagnecandy)

August 1st, 2012

Should this be my internet dating profile photo. Any man I love…



Should this be my internet dating profile photo. Any man I love will need to be on board with the cat revolution, and all necessary disguises.