August 17th, 2012
the world according to nouns (she's a carnival): some gross things that have personally been said/done to me in my fifteen-year history of playing music
- “is that YOUR gear?” (i’m setting it up, you dingus, why wouldn’t it be mine)
- dude starts plugging shit in for me without asking
- ‘wait up, sweetie. i know you’re carrying the gear, but girlfriends don’t get in free.’ (i’m A MEMBER OF THE BAND, ASSHOLE)
- ‘so which one of these guys is…
at matchless the sound guy touched my waist as he leaned over to adjust my amp (i had not asked him to) and i said HEY I BET YOU WOULDN’T BE DOING THAT IF I WAS A GUY! and he was wasted so he thought it was funny.
at a show a couple of weeks ago i was hanging in an outside balcony area talking to my friends at a club in stamford connecticut and the bouncer said “everyone who’s not a member of the band or fucking someone in the band has to leave.” i went OFF on that dude. he threatened to arrest me which was hilarious because he was uh, not a cop. after threatening to pee on the floor multiple times when he said i couldn’t use the bathroom and had to leave and calling him an asshole, i left. what was amazing was that he clearly did not get why i was so pissed off. in his own little weird universe, that was FUNNY. ugh.
How is this shit still going on?? Kill these dudes.
August 24th, 2011
One Thursday last month, during the lunch hour at H.D. Woodson Senior High School, half a dozen teenage boys have gathered to eat pizza and talk about hollering at women. “From where I come from, you holler at a girl,” one student tells the group. “A girl can’t be too upset when a guy is paying attention to her.” “It depends on the type of girl and whether she has respect for herself,” another says. “Some girls will say, stop. But they like it, for real.” “If she’s wearing short shorts, booty shorts, short skirt, with the thong showing, she wants it,” another guy says. “Can’t blame it on the boy. She knows what she’s doing.
“But what if it’s hot out?” This is Kedrick Griffin. He’s here to play the 37-year-old devil’s advocate on a subject that’s generally considered normal behavior for a teenage boy in the District of Columbia. This exercise has come almost at the end of a year-long District program called the “Men of Strength” club—MOST Club, for short. The same pattern is repeated with groups of boys in public middle and high schools across the District: Come for the pizza, stay for the deconstructions of masculinity.
I can’t even begin to express how much I love this.
it is so so so important that people are doing this. i’m grateful to all programs like this.
I’m so glad this is happening
Should be added to discussions of SlutWalk, no?
September 16th, 2010
Do I believe that sexism exists in modern workplace? Yes. But I don’t worry about it, because if someone actually decides they don’t want to work with me simply because I’m a woman, they’re saving me the trouble of working with an idiot. It’s an automatic moron screener. And in the long run, those people will find that their careers and their lives have suffered for never having worked with talented women.
But it won’t hurt me.
Now that I’ve found blinderism, I can also stop worrying about that extra $.33 on the dollar that men make! Or, say, racism—I mean if a manager doesn’t hire a candidate simply because that candidate is black, the manager is saving that person of the trouble of going to work at all! And that won’t hurt Elizabeth Spiers! Win-win.