I don’t see how you could even walk a step in those shoes without losing your mind and totally undermining the skirt.
I picked up a bird caller yesterday at the Cooper Hewitt gift shop after visiting the Sonia Delaunay exhibit (more on that later).
It’s just like a bird caller I had when I was little that was the first thing I ever won. I was at the Lawrence Hall of Science with my family and we had just watched a lecture on birds. There was a Q & A afterwards and the lecturer also asked questions and gave prizes to people who got them right. I can’t remember what the question was–something which species practiced a certain behavior, I think. I said the answer quickly, but quietly, and was drowned out by louder kids saying the wrong answer. Somehow the lecturer heard me or saw me, with my cokebottle glasses and total nerd-dom, and gave me the prize.
I was dumbfounded. I had never won anything and also never been rewarded for being smart. At home it was considered a matter of course, expected but not something that earned compliments or praise. If anything I had to hide it because my brother had some learning challenges and my parents didn’t want him to feel bad. I think this is laudable! But have realized as an adult that it gave me some mixed messages, to say the least. At school being smart was definitely a liability. The first time I ever ditched school was because I had finished reading Carrie faster than a friend and she called me a liar and slapped me.
So the prize was a big deal to me. It took a while to figure out how it worked, but I kept it, on a string, for years and years. Mine was red. This new one is wood-colored but nevertheless makes convincing squeaks and squawks. I’m hanging it on the wall as a reminder to speak up.
EVERY BAND THAT EVER PERFORMED AT JABBERJAW
ABERDEEN, ACID KING, ACTION FAMILY, A DAY CALLED ZERO, AIR MIAMI,
ALAN CLAPP AND HIS ORCHESTRA, ALCOHOL FUNNY CAR, ALIEN BOYS, AMINATURE, AMINOR FOREST, ANGEL HAIR, ANTIOCH ARROW, ANTI SCENE, ANUS THE MENACE, THE APPLES IN STEREO, ARCHERS OF LOAF, ASTRID MOTHER, THE ASTRONAUTS, THE AUDIENCE, AZAILA SNAIL,
BABYLAND, BAILTER SPACE, BAKAMONO, BARBARA MANNING, BARKMARKET, BASTARD NOISE, THE BATS, BEAN, BECK, BEEKEEPER, BEN LEE, BEST KISSERS IN THE WORLD, BIG DAMN CRAZY WEIGHT, BIG DRILL CAR, BIG SANDY, BIKINI KILL, BLACK ANGELS DEATH SONG, BLACK MARKET FLOWERS, BLACKTOP, BLACK VELVET FLAG, BLAST OFF COUNTRY STYLE, BLITZ SPHERE, BLISTER, BLONDE RED HEAD, BLOW POPBLOOD LIBEL, THE BLOOD THIRSTY BUTCHERS, BLUE BIRD, BLUE TIP, BOB EVANS, BOBSLED, THE BOBBY TEENS, BOILERMAKER, BOMB, THE BOMBORAS, THE BONNET GANG, BORBETO MAGUS, BORIS THE SPRINKLER, BOSS HOG, BOSS MARTIAN, THE BOTTOM FEEDERS, BOY RACER, BOYS LIFE, BRAINIAC, BRATMOBILE, BRICK BAT, BRUTAL JUICE, THE BUCK PETS, BUFORD, BUG LAMP, BULIMIA BANQUET, BUNNY FOOT CHARM, BURLESQUE AFFAIR, BURNING SOFA ..10, BUTTERY GLORY, BUTT TRUMPET, BUXXONATOR, BUZZ,
CALAMITY JANE, CANDLEBOX, CANKERSORES, CANNANES, CANOPY, CARBON, CAROLINER RAINBOW, CARS GET CRUSHED, C.B. BARNS, C.C.C.C., CECIL SEASKULL, CELLAR MONKEYS, CHALK CIRCLE, THE CHAMPS, CHARLES BROWN SUPERSTAR, CHAVEZ, CHEESEBURGER, CHERUBS, CHIC EMPOWERMENT PLAN, CHINCHILLA, CHISEL, CHIXDIGIT, CHOKEBORE, CHRIST ON A CRUTCH, THE CHROME CRANKS, CHUMBAWUMBA, CHUNE, CHURN, CITIZEN FISH, CITIZEN UTILITIES, CLAWHAMMER, CLIKITAT IKATOWI, THE COCTAILS, CODIENE, COFFIN BREAK, COLD COLD HEARTS, COME, COMIT GAIN, CONGO NORVELL, THE CORPASS GRINDERS, COPPERHEAD, CORROSION OF CONFORMITY, COSMIC PSYCHOS, THE COUNTBACKWARDS, THE COUNTDOWNS, COWS, CRACKERBASH, CRAIN, CRASH WORSHIP, THE CREAMERS, CRIB, THE CRIMINALS, CRISTIE FRONT DRIVE, CROM, CROWN HATE RUIN, CRUMBBOX, CUB, CULT OF EUGENE, CUPID CAR CLUB,
DAHLIA SEED, DANA LYNN, DARE DEVIL, DAS CLOWN, DAVID GREY, DAVID KILGOUR, DAZY FLUX, DAZZLING KILLMEN, DEADBOLT, DEAD WHITE AND BLUE, DEAD SURF KISS, DECEPTION BAY, THE DEEDS, DEEP TRACTION, THE DELTA 72, DEMOLITION DOLL RODS, THE DENISON KIMBALL TRIO, DEVIL DOGS, D.F.L., DICKTIT, DIE HAPPY, DIRT CLOD FIGHT, THE DIRTY 3, THE DISASTERS, DISCIPLINE, DISMEMBERMENT PLAN, DISTORTED PONY, DOG STAR, DOLOMITE, DON CABELLERO, THE DONNAS, DOO RAG, DOUG SHEPPARD, DOWN BY LAW, DOS, DRAGON ROJO, THE DRAGS, DRIFT WOOD, DRIVE LIKE JEHU, DUB NARCOTIC SOUND SYSTEM, DUH, DUMPSTER, DURA DELINQUENTS, DUTCHES SE SADE, THE DWARVES, DYNATONES,
E-COLI, ED HALL, EDSEL, EGGS, ELEVEN, ELEVENTEEN, ELLIOTT SHARP, ELLIOTT SMITH, EMERY, EMILY SASSY LIME, ENGINE 88, ENGINE KID, ETHYL MEATPLOW, EVERCLEAR, EVERGREEN, EVES PLUM, EXCUSE 17, EXENE CERVENKA, EX VOTO,
FAILURE, THE FALLOUTS, THE FAMILY JEWELS, FASTBACKS, THE FELLS, FIFTH COLUMN, THE FIGGS, THE FIREWORKS, FITZ OF DEPRESSION, FISHWIFE, THE FISTICUFFS BLUFF, THE 5,6,7,8’S, THE FIXTURES, THE FIZZY BANGERS, FLOODGATE, FLOP, THE FOR CARNATION, FORESKIN 500, FOUR WAY CROSS, THE FOXATIONS, FRANKLIN BRUNO, FREE KITTEN, THE FRUMPIES, FUCK, THE FUCKING ANGELS, FUDGE FACTORY, FU MAN CHU, FURTHER, F.Y.P.,
THE GAIN, THE GAMBLING SOUNDS, GAME FACE, GARDEN VARIETY, GAS HUFFER, GASTRO DEL SOUL, GAUNT, THE GERALDINE FIBBERS, GEKO, G-FORCE, THE GIBSON BROS., GIRLS AGAINST BOYS, THE GITS, GLEE CLUB, GLENN MEADMORE, GLUE, GNOMES OF ZURICH, GODBULLIES, GODFLESH, GOD AND TEXAS, GODHEADSILO, GOD IS MY CO-PILOT, GODPLOW, GO KART, THE GO NUTS, GRAVITY THROTTLE, THE GRATEFUL DEAD KENNEDYS, GREEN APPLE QUICK STEP, GREENDAY, GREEN MAGNET SCHOOL, THE GRIFTERS, THE GROOVIE GHOULIES, GROTUS, THE GROWN UPS, GUIDED BY VOICES, GUITAR WOLF, GUMBALL, GUZZARD,
HALF JAPANESE, THE HALO BENDERS, HAMMERBOX, HAMMERHEAD, HAUNTED GARAGE, HAZEL, HEAD, THEE HEADCOATS, HEAD OF DAVID, HEAVENS TO BETSY, HEAVY VEGETABLE, HELIOS CREED, HELLO DISASTER, HELMET, HENRY’S DRESS, THE HENTCHMEN, HENRYS DRESS, HERR K., HI CITY MILES, THE HI-FIVES, HIGHLANDER 2, HILL OF BEANS, HITTING BIRTH, HOLE, THE HOLY ROLLERS, H.P. ZINKER, HUEVOS RANCHEROS, HUGGYBEAR, HUNTINGTON CADS, HYDRAFIST, THE HYPERIONS,
IDAHO, IMPALA, THE IMPERIAL BUTT WIZARDS, INCH, INEXTREMOUS,
THE INFECTIONS, THE INSECT SURFERS, THE INVISIBLE MEN, INSULIN REACTION, I OWN THE SKY, I-SPY,
JACKASS, JACKBARBER, THE JACK BREWER BAND, JACKKINFE, JACK O NUTS, JALE, JANITOR JOE, JASMINE GROOVE, JAWBOX, JAWBREAKER, J. CHURCH, JENNY TOOMY, JEN WOOD, JESSAMINE, THE JESUS LIZARD, THE JET BOYS, THE JIGSAW SCENE, JIMMY EAT WORLD, JOAN OF ARC, JOHNBOY, JOHNNY LEGAND, JONATHAN FIRE EATER, JON COUGAR CONCENTRATION CAMP, JONESTOWN, THE JON SPENCER BLUES EXPLOSION, JUKE, JUNED, JUNE OF 44, JUNO,
KARP, KEROSINE 454, KICKING GIANT, KID CONGO POWERS, KID DYNOMO, KILLDOZER, KILL SYBIL, KITTEN SPARKLES, KNAPSACK, K-PANTS, KREVIS,
LA DONNAS, LATEX GENERATION, THE L.A. TIMES, THE LAUGHING HYENAS, LAZY, LAZYTOWN, THE LEAVING TRAINS, THE LEFTIES, THE LEGENDARY JIM RUIZ, LES THUGS, LIDSVILLE, LIKE HELL, LIQUORICE, THE LOCUST, LOIS, LOLI AND THE CHONES, LONG HIND LEGS, LONGSTOCKING, LOOMIS SLOVAK, LORD HUNT AND THE MISSING FINKS, LOS CINCOS, LOUD FAMILY, LOUDSPEAKER, LOVE AS LAUGHTER, LOVE BATTERY, LOVE DEPOSIT, LOVE 666, LOW, LOWERCASE, LOW POP SUICIDE, L7, LUBRICATED GOAT, LUCID NATION, LUCIOUS JACKSON, LUNG, LUNGFISH, LURE, LUTEFISK, LYNC,
THE MADONNAWANNABES, MADIGAN, MAGGOT BRAIN, MAGIC PACER, MAGNA POP, MAGPIE, THE MAKERS, THE MAKE-UP, MAN IS THE BASTARD, MAN OR ASTROMAN?, MARY LOU LORD, MASONA, MECCA NORMAL, THE MEICES, MELT BANANA, MELVINS, MENTAL FLOSS, MERZBOW, MIA, MICKY FINN, MIND OVER METAL, MINERAL, MISS 45, MOCKET, MOLESTATION, MOLLY MCGUIRE, THE MONO MEN, MONO ORCHID, MOOG, MORPHINE, THE MOTARDS, THE MOUNTAIN GOATS, MOUSETRAP, MR. T EXPERIENCE, THE MUD WIMIN, THE MUFFS, MULE, MURDER IN EXILE, MY NAME,
NASHVILLE PUSSY, NATION OF ULYSSES, THE NECESSARY EVILS, NECTARINE, THE NEED, THE NELS CLINE TRIO, NEUROTONES, NEUTRAL MILK HOTEL, NEW BAD THINGS, NEW BOMB TURKS, NEW RADIANT STORM KING, NIKKI MCCLURE, THE NIP DRIVERS, NIRVANA, NOISE ADDICT, NO KNIFE, THE NOMADS, NORMAN MEYER GROUP, NOTHING PAINTED BLUE, NUMBER ONE CUP, NUZZLE,
THE OBLIVIONS, THE OBSESSED, ODD NUMBERS, THE OFFSPRING, OILER, OLIVE LAWN, OLIVIA TREMOR CONTROL, ONE TON, OSWALD 5.0, OVERWHELMING COLORFAST,
THE PAIN TEENS, THE PAJAMAS, PALMETTO, PAPA FRITAS, THE PAPER TULIPS, PAT MALEY, PAL WALKER AND THE DIRTIES, PAY THE MAN, PEDRO, MURIAL AND ESTHER, PEE, THE PEE-CHEES, PEG BOY, PERMANENT GREEN LIGHT, PETER JEFFRIES, PHANTOM SURFERS, PHLEG CAMP, PHRANC, PHYSICS, PILE UP, PIPE, PITCHEBLEND, PLAIN, PLAINSFIELD, PLASTIQUE, PLEASURE BOX, PLEXI, PLIMPTON, THE PLUG IN DRUG, THE POLAR GOLDIE CATS, POLVO, PONY, POSSUM DIXON, POSTAL, THE POSTER CHILDREN, THE POTATO MEN, POWERDRESSER, PRESSURHED, PUSSY WILLLOW
THE QUEERS, QUICKSAND, THE QUINCY PUNKS,
RAILROAD JERK, RAIN ON FIRE, RADIO WEREWOLF, RECESS, THE RED AUNTS, REDD KROSS, THE RED KRAYOLA, RED RED MEAT, RED STARS THEORY, RED TEMPLE SPIRITS, REFECT, REFECT, THE REGISTRATORS, REIN SANCTION, THE REVERAND HORTON HEAT, REX, RICE, RIG, THE RINGLING SISTERS, THE RIP OFFS, RIZZO, ROCK BAND ..47, ROCKET FROM THE CRYPT, ROCKET SHIP, RODAN, RODGER MANNING, THE ROPERS, ROSEMARYS BILLYGOAT, ROYAL TRUX, RUBY FALLS,
SARA SPODEN, SATANS CHEERLEADERS, SATANS PILGRAMS, SATIVA LOVE BOX, SAM I AM, SANDY DUNCANS EYE, SATISFACT, SCENIC VERMONT, SCHROOM UNION, SCREW 32, THE SEEMEN, SEAM, SEESAW, SEASON TO RISK, SEAWEED, SECOND STORY WINDOW, THE SEDUCTIVE, SENSEFIELD, SERVOTRON, 764-HERO, SEVEN YEAR BITCH, SONE, SOMEVELVETSIDEWALK, SOVEREIGN, SEVEN LEAGUE BOOTS, SEX GANG CHILDREN, SHAPESHIFTER, SHINER, SHUDDER TO THINK, SICKO, SISSYBAR, SISTER DOUBLE HAPPINESS, SIX FINGER SATELITE, SIXTEEN (16), SIXTEEN DELUXE, 68 COMEBACK, SIX VOLT SUNBEAM, SKIPLOADER, SKYLAB, SLANT SIX, SLEEP, SLEEPY, SLEETER KINNEY, SLEEPYHEAD, SLIM MOON, SLOAN, SLUG, SMALL FACTORY, SMALL 23, SMART WENT CRAZY, SMOG, THE SMUGGLERS, THE SOFTIES, SOLID EYE, SOLID GOLD, SOMEVELVETSIDEWALK, SOUL COUGHING, SOUL JUNK, SOUTHERN CULTURE ON THE SKIDS, SPACEMEN THREE, SPAIN, SPANAKORZO, SPEAKER DEATH, SPECTRUM, SPECULUM FIGHT, SPENT, SPONGEHEAD, SPORE, SPRINKLER, THE SPINNANES, SPIRIT HOUSE, SPLENDOR, SPOON, THE SPOCK PISTOLS, STANFORD PRISON EXPERIMENT, STAR FISH, STARLIGHT DESPERATION, STAR PIMP, THE STATICS, S.T.D. 46, STEEL POLE BATHTUB, STEEL TREE, STEELWOOL, STILL LIFE, THE STINKY PUFFS, THE STITCHES, STOP, STRICKLY BALLROOM, SUE FOX, THE SUGAR PLASTIC, SUGAR SMACK, SUGAR TOOTH, THE SUMMER HITS, SUN 60, SUPERKOOLS, SUPERNOVA, SUPERSUCKERS, THE SUPREME DICKS, SURGERY, SEET CREAM U.S.A., SWERVEDRIVER, SWINGING UTTERS,
TANNER, TAPEWURM, TAR, TARA KEY, TATTLETALE, TEAM DRESCH, THE TEEN ANGELS, TEENAGE FANCLUB, TEENGENERATE, TERROR TRAIN, THAT DOG, THATS IT, THEATER CARNIVAL, THINKING FELLERS LOCAL UNION, THIRD GRADE TEACHER, THIRD SEX, THIRTY OUGHT SIx (3006), THE THREE D’S, THREE MILE PILOT, TIGER TRAP, TILT, TIMONIUM, TINA AGE 13, THE TITAN, TIT WRENCH, THE THIRD RAIL, THRONES, TIKI MEN, TIM CO., TODAY IS THE DAY, THE TOILING MIDGETS, THE TOMMY KNOCKERS, TOOL, TORTURE CHORUS, TRACK STAR, TRANS AM, TRASH CAN SCHOOL, TRASHWOMEN, TREE PEOPLE, TRENCHMOUTH, TRES FLORES, TRIBE EIGHT, TRIPPIN DAISY, TRI STATE KILL SPREE, THE TROUBLEMAKERS, TRUMANS WATER, TSNAUMI, T-TAURI, TULLY CRAFT, TUMMY ACHE, TUM WATER, THE TUNNELMEN,
THE UFOFU’S, THE ULTRAS, TYRANTS IN THERAPY, UNIVERSAL ORDER OF ARMIGEDION, UNREST, UNSANE, UNWOUND, THE UPHILL GARDENERS, URGE OVERKILL,
VAGINAL CREME DAVIS, THE VOLUPTUOUS HORROR OF KAREN BLACK, THE VEGAS BEAT, VERTIGO, VERSUS, VERY SHIT STORY, THE V.S.S., VICTOMS FAMILY, VIOLENT GREEN, VISH-GINKS, VITA-PUP, VOODOO GEARSHIFT,
WALT MINK, THE WALKABOUTS, THE WARLOCK PINCHERS, THE WARMERS, WAT TYLER, WAX, THE WAYDOWNS, WEATHER BELL, WEEN, WEEZER, WHITE FLAG, WHITE ZOMBIE, WING NUT SUPREME, WITCHY POO, THE WOGGLES, WONDERING LUCY, WOOL, WRECK, WRENS,
YATSURA, THE YOUNG DESTROYERS, THE YOUNGINS, THE YOUNG PIONEERS,
ZIP GUN, ZOINKS, ZOVIET FRANCE
Our Michelle is doing great things for the reunion festival, it has even gotten me excited.
shipping containers, GPT, treasure hunts, watt, bookworms, bill cunningham, flaneurs, hikers, the ocean in the winter, humidifiers, miniatures, crime scenes, hydration, hip replacement, mysterious bruises.
headscarves,, underground zoos, custody agreements, the nutcracker, avoiding coffee, the magic penis, and other bad things, shelltoes, the motherfucking south bay, overnighters, work parties, the courtship of eddie’s father, everlast brand shorts, palatino, imovie, direct deposit, getting unstuck, spiral notebooks, paul weller.
bracketology, nooshs, exfoliants, burning bushes, sera, those born under the sign of taurus, repairs, bitters, horizons, godard, bond.
ginger ale, remote controls, fizzy water, rory stewart, burritos, sheikha mayassa, popcorn, mid-century modern, scott scanlon, sweater people, fake blood, ginger, pizza, foot scrubs.
fatoosh, the lockhorns, compression of mortality, blowouts, human-powered aquatics, salt water, kombucha, audrey, the concept of the third cat, and the return of the good old-fashioned date, if only in my head.
yahtzee, gentlemen callers, danny stiles, puffins, flirts, texters, spooners, serenaders, career counselees, a bass player, someone who will hire Josh, aliens, robots, astronauts, deep sea divers, cody and faith’s baby, members of the fritz newman fan club, those who want the pool to be run by the people.
blackberries, puffins, porches, mods, running lines, clean sheets, children’s theatrical productions, papermate medium blacks, sabrina the teenaged witch, incident at loch ness, hoods, pockets, bad haircuts, benefits.
sunscreen, badminton, pizza, jicama, horsehoes, candles, jars, hoses, steve mcqueen, miracle-gro, tour dates, kickball oldtimers league, balm, culottes, built by wendy, heels, defrizzers, croquet, commuters, asbury, grapefruit, invasion, coney.
dance parties of one, bilf, long distance romance and long distance friendship, breathing, biofeedback, the international table, jen’s dv camera, location scouting, dave gomez, wristguards, belts, puff skirts, slowriders.
protein bars, the erotomania of others, adria dawn, hats, internal cleansing, candy, vacuums, midnight movies, puttering, vegan baked goods, blowdryers, ab work, ice sculptures, kits, hasbeens, invoicing, master criminals, the delusion of self-knowledge, portland’s z100, cellphone plans, harry mathews, every day vs everyday, exposure through art, polish rock, spirulina, measuring things with my history ruler, abortion rights, nausea medication, musical numbers, tax attorneys, razorcuts.
the clash between love and hope, amateur cat movies, carnival of souls, flat shoes, courreges, hair color, louis althusser, the post office, cutting energy bills, eating vegetables, height, shell art, lamp bases, clumsy liars, scroker, being the 8th caller, tube socks, digitizing vinyl, the irs, sledding.
Found this old list of interests, most of which still apply.
Also Debbie Gibson–KAREN CARPENTER MUCH, AMIRITE?
This is so funny and offensive on so many levels, I keep laughing and then putting my hand over my mouth.
OMG there are so many gems.
I mean, they only polled 145 people, and they were UCLA students at that but ORAL SEX WITH BARNEY.
Theodore Ross has been writing a series about the indignities of losing his job as a wealthy, educated white male for the Times. It’s hard for him, you guys. Last week he talked about the “surreality” of getting emails from his former coworkers! That’s really weird!! But today he talked about one aspect of his life that’s going great! His superlady wife-in-waiting, Tomoko:
“Tomoko and I met and fell in love nearly two years ago, as I was going through a protracted divorce. A beautiful, caring and patient woman, she endured my rants on custody law and the indignities of court appearances, taught me yoga, took me surfing. She endured the dispersal of the better part of my income to the divorce lawyer, and accepted that my son’s mother would always remain a fixture in our lives. We took an apartment together as our relationship deepened. She grew close to my boy, became pregnant with our child, and we considered our options for the future. Discussions regarding marriage occurred, predicated, of course, on the completion of my divorce. (It was a source of much joking at Harper’s — another thing I’ll truly miss — that my second child came before my first divorce.)”
Tomoko is a paragon of a woman indeed. Yoga teacher, surf coach, rant-listener, child bearer, joke subject, and, as this week’s column explains, she’s willing to marry him because he needs insurance! Oh, she got a little testy when he announced the marriage instead of asking her, but after she was allowed to attend yoga class, “her first and much-deserved opportunity in months to be away from the baby”–the three-month-old baby–she got over it. Oh, also, do you know how Tomoko indicated her displeasure? She “frowned beatifically.” I mean, she is always looking good!
Other things Tomoko does that are awesome, from Ross’s entries on the Dadwagon blog:
Kicks him out of the house and tells him to go to work because he is so shitty at helping take care of their baby, even though it’s his second child. He responds by going to his office and whining about how he doesn’t get paternity leave because he is freelance.
Wakes him up in the middle of the night when it’s his turn to feed the baby, because he will sleep through it otherwise. He responds to this by writing about how men are better at taking care of babies than women, because women will give up sleep to feed their babies and men won’t. Women are so dumb! And they should get more sleep. If only mothers of babies had someone around to help them….
But Tomoko is far from perfect:
She should be helping the older child to read: Ted thinks that his son is probably ready to learn to read, but he, Ted, doesn’t have the time or patience to do it.
liar pants on fire i called twice –you did not answer — i texted twice –you did not answer . then i left a message with your wife to say i wished you a happy. you just needed to write a pithy , semihumorous , semi selfpitying mmonologe . next time –mom says answer your phone when i call
Now I’m worried about Tomoko’s impending return to her job. I mean, yeah, she is the breadwinner, and the person who does most of the child care, but if she can’t even get Ted his messages, will this marriage last?
I can only hope to one day create something of this magnitude. After careful viewing, if your mind has expanded fully, I recommend orlandvic‘s other pieces, especially Rodolfo at home 5 and Hangin with the Neighborhood.
[Aside: Could vicorland be Vic Orlando, voice of the Seattle Sonics? (and why aren't they the Supersonics?]
Worthy: Disco version by Visage:
I would like to see Vic extend his practice to these interpretations.
Basically you are seeing my Sunday morning in blog form.
Some discussion on Gloria Steinem’s transphobia, specifically within Outrageous Acts and Everyday Rebellions,* and what it might look like for her to do some work on retracting her statements, distancing herself from them, and—not undoing the harm, I don’t think, because how could you—but maybe making a space where those she did harm feel some respect, and some acknowledgment of the wrongdoing, and a sense that Steinem and those who identify with her are committed to moving toward a more pluralistic vision of liberation. I don’t want to speak for the trans community and what they might want, but that’s a rough précis of what I think is called for. (Please correct me if I am wrong, althought I am aware there isn’t a monolithic trans community with a spokesperson and a list of demands. Also although, I love lists of demands, so go for it if you like.) ALSO YES I JUST WROTE PRECIS, PRECIOUS.
I’m curious what the pub. date on the book and the original date on the essay were. not to say this makes it less egregious, but I hope her views have changed since she wrote that!
Well, as I stated in the post, it was originally written in 1977, and the edition was put out in 1995. In the new preface to the edition in question, she did not retract or distance herself from or apologize for anything in the essay.
Of course, 15-16 years have passed since that edition, so it is possible that her views have changed since then, and one would hope that they have. But at the same time, I really don’t think that her views changing really count for much? I mean, admittedly as a cis person my thoughts on the matter don’t really count for all that much, either, but. I’d say she not only owes an apology, but a lot of work to address the harm that those views have done to the trans community over the decades, including the harm that the feminist movement has specifically done to trans people, especially trans women. Like, you know, this.
And, you know. I sure as hell do not see her doing that work.
Which has resulted in deaths. Or cis feminists keeping trans women out of domestic violence shelters and rape crisis centers, which has caused deaths. Etc. Clearly, she was not only complicit in that, but an active promoter of it.
As another cis woman, I think there is also a responsibility to—without turning your back on those you’ve harmed, who should remain centered—go back to your own community (in this case feminists) and convene a discussion there and see what can be done.
I was reading old women’s magazines from the 70s at work this week. It is very exciting unto me to see that big mainstream books had regular editorials and articles about women’s lib. But the rush is always accompanied by a sick feeling because this vision of liberation is so limited and hateful. I read a whole editorial that starts out talking about how lesbians are getting a lot of press now, gals, and that’s ok! Because they are women too, and therefore part of women’s lib. But you don’t have to let their man-hating ways scare you away from the movement! SO AWFUL. I will see if I can scan it in and post it, it’s pretty intense.
Things like that make me feel like–OK how do I, as a feminist, even deal with it? See also: the suffrage ladies, who I do think were total badasses with their hunger strikes and their getting forcefed with tubes up their noses and burning the president in effigy outside the White House, but who also made such terrible terrible decisions to exclude women of color and women of other classes from the fight for enfranchisement. How can I still honor the good and acknowledge the bad? I suppose in a lot of ways reading history is just always going to be like that. There are no perfect movements and no perfect people–but that can’t be used as an excuse to not talk about the shit that has gone down and is still going down.
(Perfection issue sidebar: This is a pet peeve of mine. When people are like “Well Al Gore is such a hypocrite, he has a private plane!” And you are like, that doesn’t mean global warming isnt happening, you know. You still don’t need to buy a new tv every year. Just FYI.” There is something I call the Jesus Syndrome on the left ( different from the one on the right!) where you can justify your own inaction by seizing on things like that. I mean, John Edwards: Bad husband! Made a lot of mistakes. However, you sure don’t hear much talk on the national stage talking about poverty since he left the room. (My metaphor has a stage and a room!) It’s hard because you don’t want to fall into that trap, but then you also don’t want to ignore things like, telling Ida Tarbell she can’t march in the parade.)
Uhhh where was I. I think I’m not going to go for a neat little summation here. Working on a history of feminism brings a lot of this up for me. We want Chicklib to be inspiring and to shine a light on a lot of the radical actions that women have taken in the name of gender justice, but not gloss over the shitty things that have been done, either. I mean, it’s problematic to even call it a history of feminism because that’s a pretty modern term. Sojourner Truth and Emma Goldman wouldn’t call themselves feminists, but by including them in the book, I’m kind of claiming them. Perhaps you can now see why this project is mumblemumble almostayearbehind alsobecauseofmybeingsick butmostlythishonestly.
The Terrible People
by Ogden Nash
- People who have what they want are very fond of telling people who haven’t what they want that they really don’t want it,
- And I wish I could afford to gather all such people into a gloomy castle on the Danube and hire half a dozen capable Draculas to haunt it.
- I dont’ mind their having a lot of money, and I don’t care how they employ it,
- But I do think that they damn well ought to admit they enjoy it.
- But no, they insist on being stealthy
- About the pleasures of being wealthy,
- And the possession of a handsome annuity
- Makes them think that to say how hard it is to make both ends meet is their bounden duity.
- You cannot conceive of an occasion
- Which will find them without some suitable evasion.
- Yes indeed, with argumetsn they are very fecund;
- Their first point is that money isn’t everything, and that they have no money anyhow is their second.
- Some people’s money is merited,
- And other people’s is inherited,
- But wherever it comes from,
- They talk about it as if it were something you got pink gums from.
- Perhaps indeed the possession of wealth is constantly distressing,
- But I should be quite willing to assume every curse of wealth if I could at the same time assume every blessing.
- The only incurable troubles of the rich are the troubles that money can’t cure,
- Which is a kind of trouble that is even more troublesome if you are poor.
- Certainly there are lots of things in life that money won’t buy, but it’s very funny —
- Have you ever tried to buy them without money?