Posts tagged ‘undoing feminism’

October 13th, 2013

Why does our fandom put the boy fans on a high pedestal like juST BC YOU HAVE A PENIS IT DOES NOT…

Why does our fandom put the boy fans on a high pedestal like juST BC YOU HAVE A PENIS IT DOES NOT MEAN ITS BETTER THAN MY BABY MAKER EXIT

one of my favorite twitter posts of all time.

October 5th, 2013

How does the narcissist react when he fails to obtain enough Narcissistic Supply? Very much as a…

How does the narcissist react when he fails to obtain enough Narcissistic Supply? Very much as a drug addict would react to the absence of his particular drug. The dwindling or absence of supply is a trauma and the narcissist experiences post-traumatic stress.

The narcissist constantly consumes (really, preys upon) adoration, admiration, approval, applause, attention and other forms of Narcissistic Supply. When lacking or deficient, a Narcissistic Deficiency Dysphoria sets in. The narcissist then appears to be depressed, his movements slow down, his sleep patterns are disordered (he either sleeps too much or becomes insomniac), his eating patterns change (he gorges on food or is avoids it altogether).

He is be constantly dysphoric (sad) and anhedonic (finds no pleasure in anything, including his former pursuits, hobbies, and interests). He is subjected to violent mood swings (mainly rage attacks) and all his (visible and painful) efforts at self-control fail. He may compulsively and ritually resort to an alternative addiction – alcohol, drugs, reckless driving, shopaholism.

This gradual disintegration is the narcissist’s futile effort both to escape his predicament and to sublimate his aggressive urges. His whole behaviour seems constrained, artificial, and effortful. The narcissist gradually turns more and more mechanical, detached, and “unreal”. His thoughts constantly wander or become obsessive and repetitive, his speech may falter, he appears to be far away, in a world of his narcissistic fantasies, where Narcissistic Supply is aplenty.

He withdraws from his painful existence, where others fail to appreciate his greatness, special skills and talents, potential, or achievements. The narcissist thus ceases to bestow himself upon a cruel universe, punishing it for its shortcomings, its inability to realise how unique he is.

When narcissism thus fails as a defense mechanism, the narcissist develops paranoid delusions: self-directed confabulations which place him at the center of others’ allegedly malign attention. The narcissist becomes his own audience and self-sufficient as his own, sometimes exclusive, source of narcissistic supply.

The narcissist goes into a schizoid mode: he isolates himself, a hermit in the kingdom of his hurt. He minimises his social interactions and uses “messengers” to communicate with the outside. Devoid of energy, the narcissist can no longer pretend to succumb to social conventions. His former compliance gives way to open withdrawal (a rebellion of sorts). Smiles are transformed to frowns, courtesy becomes rudeness, emphasised etiquette used as a weapon, an outlet of aggression, an act of violence.

The narcissist, blinded by pain, seeks to restore his balance, to take another sip of the narcissistic nectar. In this quest, the narcissist turns both to and upon those nearest to him. His real attitude emerges: for him, his nearest and dearest are nothing are but tools, one-dimensional instruments of gratification, Sources of Supply or pimps of such supply, catering to his narcissistic lusts.

 

September 8th, 2013

brownfemipower: i am goddamn sick and fucking TIRED of all these white women running around saying…

brownfemipower:

i am goddamn sick and fucking TIRED of all these white women running around saying they were “duped” by hugo s. i’ve never SEEN so many precious snowflakes melting into puddles of duped tears. those same snowflakes that would chew the throat out of naomi wolff for defending julian assange. with their bare teeth. 

I don’t GIVE a fuck if you were duped, that’s not the goddamn point. the point is WHY were you duped? and don’t give me some bullshit horse and pony show about “i want to believe a redemption narrative” cuz that is what is called LIES.

*F*eminism as an entity does NOT believe chris brown. *F*eminism as an entity does NOT believe eminem. *F*eminism as an entity has ripped other women who HAVE believed/chosen to support/be critically interested in Eminem or Chris Brown to *shreds*.

*F*eminism does NOT want to believe a “redemption narrative” unless it is coming from a VERY specific person. 

if you’re not going to talk about THAT—you need to sit down and shut. up. 

September 7th, 2013

lalondes: i feel like the problem with criticisms of sofia coppola’s movies is that her perspective…

lalondes:

i feel like the problem with criticisms of sofia coppola’s movies is that her perspective is just so, so uniquely female and she allows femininity to touch every aspect of her narratives and that’s not something that reviewers or film industry insiders are used to

when marie antoinette came out at cannes it was booed and critics had a field day ripping it to shreds for not being historically accurate or focused on the politics of the french revolution and sofia coppola just had to come out and say “that wasn’t the fucking point i wanted to tell a story about a teenage girl and so i made narrative and stylistic choices that reflect the experiences and emotions of teenage girls it wasn’t supposed to be a true-to-life historical documentary calm down does looking at history from a stylized, female perspective really bother you that much”

and the criticism of the bling ring was similar critics were like “where’s the moral compass where’s the biting social commentary” like oh my god i’m sorry she didn’t hit you over the head with it i’m sorry she didn’t give you a neat conclusion i’m sorry her characters were morally grey i’m sorry that she’s using the language of young women in order to tell a story about young women and you’re too fucking dumb to recognize that because you’re so used to seeing films written by men and directed by men and starring men

I have some issues with her work but this is an important thing to say.  See also (I know I say this all the time) people who ripped into Velvet Goldmine for not being true to the Iggy/Bowie canon when really it was a movie about love, about falling in love with music, with a movement, with men, and how eventually all of it betrays you and is still beautiful, it;s about being a fan most of all.

September 7th, 2013

In which Aura Bogado uses her feminist archive of screenshots to…





















In which Aura Bogado uses her feminist archive of screenshots to point out a white feminist’s inconsistencies—calling for Chris Brown to be killed (!) because of his actions, while urging Schwyzer’s forgiveness for similar actions.

Megan Murphy and other white feminists have called this discussion of their actions supporting Schwyzer and denigrating/ignoring WOC who were being abused by him “divisive” and “mean-spirited.” I’d like to tell them that if they don’t address their racist acts, they are “dividing feminism,” not HS, or WOC.

August 31st, 2013

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August 29th, 2013

"There’s a high you get from being the NEW! HOT! SEXY! COOL! feminist, which we need to admit…"

“There’s a high you get from being the NEW! HOT! SEXY! COOL! feminist, which we need to admit to. We also need a plan for the next phase.”

- Someone actually typed this.
August 29th, 2013

heavenrants: sparkamovement: "He was going to stab me, so I…





heavenrants:

sparkamovement:

"He was going to stab me, so I had to push it." - Civil Rights activist Gloria Richardson. Watch her whole interview about women activists at the March on Washington here

THIS IS EVERYTHING

August 25th, 2013

Dear Feminist Leaders: I don’t care that you were "fooled"

sheelzebub:

The issue is that people—and by people, I mean feminists and their dudely allies—refused to listen to other women who were speaking loudly and clearly about why Hugo was a problem.  WHY giving him a platform and a fucking megaphone was a problem. WHY being enthusiastic about him leading Slutwalk was a problem.

The issue isn’t that you were fooled.  The issue is that you all didn’t fucking listen, you didn’t give a shit, you couldn’t be arsed to take the concerns of women of color into consideration, and you couldn’t be bothered to give the words of women of color any credibility. The issue is that a lot of you big name feminists and dudely allies berated and shamed the women who came forward by preaching about forgiveness and redemption and coopting concepts women of color had pioneered.  That you shrugged it off and lectured HS’s critics on the important shit.  That you talked about how he had chaaanged even though women of color were telling you his behavior towards them showed he hasn’t. 

The issue is that you all—big name feminists and dudely dude allies—engaged in the same damn silencing techniques and belittling bullshit abuse enablers do.

HS is not an evil genius. He is not Hannibal Fucking Lechter. The fact is, if people came forward claiming to be shocked, shocked by Assange, or Polanski, or DSK, or any other lefty d00d we’ve known is a sexist, racist asshat, you’d rightly call them out on their bullshit.  You’d ask them why they didn’t take the words of women into account.  You’d ask them why they automatically deride those women who spoke up.  You’d ask them why the words of women weren’t worth believing.

Well, I’m going to ask you: WHY AREN’T THE WORDS OF WOMEN BELIEVING?

Oh! Women of color. That’s why.

Exactly how confident am I supposed to feel about a movement that claims to speak for and fight for all women when the leaders act like dudely dudes to a huge swath of them?

August 25th, 2013

"I know black women in Tennessee who have worked all their lives, from the time they were twelve…"

“I know black women in Tennessee who have worked all their lives, from the time they were twelve years old to the day they died. These women don’t listen to the women’s liberation rhetoric because they know that it’s nothing but a bunch of white women who had certain life-styles and who want to change those life-styles. They say things like they don’t want men opening doors for them anymore, and they don’t want men lighting their cigarettes for them anymore. Big deal. Black women have been opening doors for themselves and lighting their own cigarettes for a couple centuries in this country. Black women don’t quibble about things that are not important.”

- Wilma Rudolph (via blackheartedlove)