Posts tagged ‘white supremacy’

October 5th, 2013

How does the narcissist react when he fails to obtain enough Narcissistic Supply? Very much as a…

How does the narcissist react when he fails to obtain enough Narcissistic Supply? Very much as a drug addict would react to the absence of his particular drug. The dwindling or absence of supply is a trauma and the narcissist experiences post-traumatic stress.

The narcissist constantly consumes (really, preys upon) adoration, admiration, approval, applause, attention and other forms of Narcissistic Supply. When lacking or deficient, a Narcissistic Deficiency Dysphoria sets in. The narcissist then appears to be depressed, his movements slow down, his sleep patterns are disordered (he either sleeps too much or becomes insomniac), his eating patterns change (he gorges on food or is avoids it altogether).

He is be constantly dysphoric (sad) and anhedonic (finds no pleasure in anything, including his former pursuits, hobbies, and interests). He is subjected to violent mood swings (mainly rage attacks) and all his (visible and painful) efforts at self-control fail. He may compulsively and ritually resort to an alternative addiction – alcohol, drugs, reckless driving, shopaholism.

This gradual disintegration is the narcissist’s futile effort both to escape his predicament and to sublimate his aggressive urges. His whole behaviour seems constrained, artificial, and effortful. The narcissist gradually turns more and more mechanical, detached, and “unreal”. His thoughts constantly wander or become obsessive and repetitive, his speech may falter, he appears to be far away, in a world of his narcissistic fantasies, where Narcissistic Supply is aplenty.

He withdraws from his painful existence, where others fail to appreciate his greatness, special skills and talents, potential, or achievements. The narcissist thus ceases to bestow himself upon a cruel universe, punishing it for its shortcomings, its inability to realise how unique he is.

When narcissism thus fails as a defense mechanism, the narcissist develops paranoid delusions: self-directed confabulations which place him at the center of others’ allegedly malign attention. The narcissist becomes his own audience and self-sufficient as his own, sometimes exclusive, source of narcissistic supply.

The narcissist goes into a schizoid mode: he isolates himself, a hermit in the kingdom of his hurt. He minimises his social interactions and uses “messengers” to communicate with the outside. Devoid of energy, the narcissist can no longer pretend to succumb to social conventions. His former compliance gives way to open withdrawal (a rebellion of sorts). Smiles are transformed to frowns, courtesy becomes rudeness, emphasised etiquette used as a weapon, an outlet of aggression, an act of violence.

The narcissist, blinded by pain, seeks to restore his balance, to take another sip of the narcissistic nectar. In this quest, the narcissist turns both to and upon those nearest to him. His real attitude emerges: for him, his nearest and dearest are nothing are but tools, one-dimensional instruments of gratification, Sources of Supply or pimps of such supply, catering to his narcissistic lusts.

 

September 9th, 2013

Check your caption, Daily Mail.



Check your caption, Daily Mail.

September 8th, 2013

brownfemipower: i am goddamn sick and fucking TIRED of all these white women running around saying…

brownfemipower:

i am goddamn sick and fucking TIRED of all these white women running around saying they were “duped” by hugo s. i’ve never SEEN so many precious snowflakes melting into puddles of duped tears. those same snowflakes that would chew the throat out of naomi wolff for defending julian assange. with their bare teeth. 

I don’t GIVE a fuck if you were duped, that’s not the goddamn point. the point is WHY were you duped? and don’t give me some bullshit horse and pony show about “i want to believe a redemption narrative” cuz that is what is called LIES.

*F*eminism as an entity does NOT believe chris brown. *F*eminism as an entity does NOT believe eminem. *F*eminism as an entity has ripped other women who HAVE believed/chosen to support/be critically interested in Eminem or Chris Brown to *shreds*.

*F*eminism does NOT want to believe a “redemption narrative” unless it is coming from a VERY specific person. 

if you’re not going to talk about THAT—you need to sit down and shut. up. 

September 7th, 2013

In which Aura Bogado uses her feminist archive of screenshots to…





















In which Aura Bogado uses her feminist archive of screenshots to point out a white feminist’s inconsistencies—calling for Chris Brown to be killed (!) because of his actions, while urging Schwyzer’s forgiveness for similar actions.

Megan Murphy and other white feminists have called this discussion of their actions supporting Schwyzer and denigrating/ignoring WOC who were being abused by him “divisive” and “mean-spirited.” I’d like to tell them that if they don’t address their racist acts, they are “dividing feminism,” not HS, or WOC.

August 31st, 2013

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August 29th, 2013

heavenrants: sparkamovement: "He was going to stab me, so I…





heavenrants:

sparkamovement:

"He was going to stab me, so I had to push it." - Civil Rights activist Gloria Richardson. Watch her whole interview about women activists at the March on Washington here

THIS IS EVERYTHING

August 25th, 2013

"I know black women in Tennessee who have worked all their lives, from the time they were twelve…"

“I know black women in Tennessee who have worked all their lives, from the time they were twelve years old to the day they died. These women don’t listen to the women’s liberation rhetoric because they know that it’s nothing but a bunch of white women who had certain life-styles and who want to change those life-styles. They say things like they don’t want men opening doors for them anymore, and they don’t want men lighting their cigarettes for them anymore. Big deal. Black women have been opening doors for themselves and lighting their own cigarettes for a couple centuries in this country. Black women don’t quibble about things that are not important.”

- Wilma Rudolph (via blackheartedlove)
August 24th, 2013

brownfemipower: the most discouraging and upsetting thing in wake of all this crap to me is how…

brownfemipower:

the most discouraging and upsetting thing in wake of all this crap to me is how many people have said “who are those people?” (that is: black amazon, brownfemipower, flavia) and what happened? 

i really hope people use the “opportunity” to interrogate why nobody seems to know about the history of women of color in the blogosphere, especially because so much of our history coincides with the history of white women. why do you know the history of white women, but don’t know the basic rudimentary relationship they had with their woman of color contemporaries? why don’t you know our history as it exists outside of the relationship with white supremacy? how often does this lack of knowledge/historical awareness happen throughout US feminism? from the beginning of the US in that damn senneca falls meeting?

sure, there’s been some minor roadblocks put in place, like many of us shutting our blogs down.

but…we’re all still *here*. and people like flavia and black amazon (and karnythia, so_treu, amaditalks, etc) haven’t stopped talking about hugo. you know who ALSO knows that we haven’t stopped talking? hugo. who wanted to “shut flavia the fuck up.” and who saw women of color as “being in the way.”

why was hugo so aware of our presence, but so many white feminists are just confused right now? (or “behind the curve”?)

August 24th, 2013

the real brownfemipower: Media accountability and feminist ethics

the real brownfemipower: Media accountability and feminist ethics:

redlightpolitics:

Last night’s incident with Helen Lewis only highlighted what I’ve been going on about for the past few weeks: certain corporate feminist mass media has become an unethical pursuit that lacks accountability towards the demographics they claim to represent. When Lewis calls…

August 23rd, 2013

"Here’s the thing about gentrification. The upside is that there is more police presence, better…"

Here’s the thing about gentrification.

The upside is that there is more police presence, better public schools, your trash will get picked up, but there’s a downside. I’m not going to make a generalization. But, in many cases, when people move in they have this Christopher Columbus syndrome. There’s a great tradition [and] heritage in Harlem, Fort Greene and Bed-Stuy. You just can’t come in and blow up the spot like you been there forever.

My father is a great jazz musician, Bill Lee. Did the scores for She’s Gotta Have It, School Daze, Do the Right Thing, and Mo Better Blues. He’s been playing music in our home [in Fort Greene] since 1969. Now, some neighbor moved in, they’re calling the cops on my father saying he’s playing his music too loud. That’s some bullshit.

No one has ever complained, since 1969, about my father playing his jazz music. Now, this new person moves in, they calling the cops? The cops laugh at them! It’s that type of attitude man. That’s not making good neighbors. That’s not coming in the neighborhood being humble.

Mount Morris Park in Harlem. For years, brothers have played African drums on Sunday morning. Now…they’re gone. That’s disrespectful.

You go to Fort Greene today, it’s unrecognizable. Bed-Stuy do or die. Harlem. Lower East Side. DC’s not Chocolate City anymore.

Everybody in the Lower East Side, they moved to Williamsburg. Particularly, my Puerto Rican brother and sisters, they can’t afford Williamsburg anymore because of hipsters. They moved to Bushwick; pretty soon Bushwick is going to be like Williamsburg. After Coney Island there is nowhere else. After the beach at Coney Island, it’s the motherfucking Atlantic Ocean!



- Spike Lee (via dreamsactualized)